Qarib Qarib Singlle ac­tors Ir­rfan and Par­vathy gave an in­sight into what mod­ern re­la­tion­ships look like to­day

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It was dur­ing the shoot­ing of the film that I started putting my­self out there again. PAR­VATHY, AC­TOR We get a cer­tain kind of con­di­tion­ing from the so­ci­ety, 90% of peo­ple take those norms se­ri­ously... They stop ex­plor­ing. IR­RFAN, AC­TOR

With his new found love for the ro­man­tic genre, Ir­rfan is on an ex­per­i­men­tal spree and his lat­est re­lease Qarib Qarib Sin­glee deals with on­line dat­ing.

His co-star Par­vathy, a Malay­alam ac­tress, who makes her de­but with the film says that her char­ac­ter of Jaya was pretty close to what she is in real life. The lead ac­tors dis­cussed life, ro­mance, re­la­tion­ships and more when they vis­ited the Hin­dus­tan Times of­fice.

Ir­rfan, did you take up this role to change the im­age that peo­ple have of you?

Ir­rfan: No, it is just what you need at that time. If you have been do­ing cer­tain kind of films, you feel the need to do some­thing dif­fer­ent. Be­ing an ac­tor, the most im­por­tant thing is to share what is hap­pen­ing in­side you, around you and what con­cerns you. Love is a ma­jor thing in my life and it has changed me a lot; I un­der­stood life be­cause of that. You learn how it can flour­ish you and cleanse you. When you start un­der­stand­ing and ex­pe­ri­enc­ing that then you want to share it. You tend to learn about love through cin­ema when you are young and that af­fects you, but then it is not the same in real life.

Are you an ex­pres­sive per­son when it comes to love?

Ir­rfan: No I am not. I am ex­pres­sive when I re­alise that we have formed an equa­tion, not be­fore that.

Par­vathy, how close are you to your char­ac­ter in the film?

Par­vathy: I am pretty close to Jaya. There are a lot of tags and they don’t make sense to me. I was in a long dis­tance re­la­tion­ship, which had just ended, and the idea that you can fall in love again was pretty un­set­tling for me. You have to be re­ally brave enough to put your­self out there. I was tired be­cause I didn’t want to start from the scratch again, so I started stop­ping my­self from ex­press­ing. It was dur­ing the shoot­ing of the film that I started putting my­self out there again. It was very cathar­tic. The best thing about my job is that my char­ac­ters teach me so much. It hap­pened to me that while shoot­ing the film, I also started lik­ing some­one but I was so scared to con­fess. My friend said that the mo­ment you start wor­ry­ing about what will hap­pen, it is not healthy. So I started us­ing that funda and it is still go­ing strong. It does not mat­ter how long you love but how well you love.

Do you feel this movie will drop the tags and in­hi­bi­tions that we live with?

Ir­rfan: We get a cer­tain kind of con­di­tion­ing from the so­ci­ety, 90% of peo­ple take those norms se­ri­ously and they end up liv­ing the life that they would not have live ideally. They stop ex­plor­ing; they do what they are told. We have to un­der­stand we are live be­ings; ev­ery­thing that is told to us is dead un­less we ex­pe­ri­ence them our­selves. We make a gen­eral truth about so­ci­ety and try to push that truth on so­ci­ety. Ev­ery­body has to find their own truth.

Since the film is about on­line dat­ing. What is your take on that?

Ir­rfan: I know for a fact that if there is any­thing new in the mar­ket, I can’t use it. I can’t put my pic­ture. I had tried once, but I failed. I think these are fan­tas­tic things, but they should have come sooner. In our so­ci­ety, I don’t think 90% of women have ex­pe­ri­enced or­gasms. It is the truth but peo­ple will say ‘How can you talk about this?’. I feel all these apps will open pos­si­bil­i­ties. I have friends who have more than one boyfriend and that is be­cause they want to ex­plore. Who are you to tell them what to do? It is their body and it is their choice. If you can’t take it then leave.

This is your sec­ond film with Su­tapa (Sik­dar, his wife who is also the pro­ducer). Is it easy work­ing with some­one who you know so closely, or is it dif­fi­cult?

Ir­rfan: Su­tupa and I worked in a se­ries but there our re­la­tion was dif­fer­ent. She was the writer and I was the ac­tor, and we used to have a lot of fights as she used to write a lot. Then she stopped writ­ing and got bored of it. She is a creative per­son and is very un­con­ven­tional; you can’t box her in a set of ideas. I used to see a lot of locked up en­ergy in her and a lot of anx­i­ety. This film just fell in our lap. She told me cer­tain as­pects of the film that I couldn’t see. Now, I feel I have seen a new Su­tapa. She needs creative things in her life be­cause this is what she loves.

Par­vathy, why Hindi films af­ter hav­ing a suc­cess­ful ca­reer in the South?

Par­vathy: I have never un­der­stood the idea of a dif­fer­ent in­dus­try. It is a bonus for me to learn a lan­guage that my char­ac­ter thinks in. ini­tially peo­ple used to ask me, ‘Why did you leave Malay­alam cin­ema and go to Tamil cin­ema?’ It was only be­cause good films came from there. I will go where good cin­ema comes from. Ir­rfan is do­ing a Bangladeshi film. Hindi cin­ema has cre­ated so many bril­liant films, which are con­tent-driven as they should be, and now the term con­tent-driven is com­ing back. I have al­ways be­lieved that if I am an artiste then I will cre­ate art no mat­ter where I go. There is no strat­egy to any­thing, it is just a beau­ti­ful un­pre­dictable jour­ney. I keep think­ing that any movie could be my last and it is fine, I will go to an­other av­enue af­ter this. Ir­rfan is a good ex­am­ple of this; he is some­one who gets a high on liv­ing in the un­pre­dictabil­ity of it. I am glad it hap­pened.

Which im­age do you pre­fer — brooding or ro­man­tic?

Ir­rfan: I am kind of tired of the brooding im­age; there is so much ro­mance in­side me that I want to share it. It is all bot­tled up. It all comes from ex­pe­ri­ence. You need to meet peo­ple. All those ex­pe­ri­ences change you, for ex­am­ple my first set­back in love was so in­tense that I don’t think that I will ever be able to ex­pe­ri­ence that again. It changed me for bet­ter and I thank god it hap­pened. That ex­pe­ri­ence re­ally brought me out of my co­coon.


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