It takes 200 hours to become ‘good friends’ with someone

Friendship is a relationship between two or more people that are attached to each other, and is seldom restricted by any barriers. However, there’s no forcing someone if you want to be friends with them — the best possible way, studies suggest, is to spend more time with them.

In a paper published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, professor of Communication Studies Jeffrey Hall defined how long it takes to make a friend, and how long it takes for people to typically make their way through the different stages of friendship. Hall and his colleague developed an online tool to assess how close people were to their friends.

In the first part of the study, they analysed 355 survey responses from adults who had moved to new places within the last six months, and were looking for new friends.

They were asked to think of someone they had met since moving, and how their friendship had developed. They had to see how close they were and how many hours they spent together, as well as where they would rate the relationship in one of four categories: acquaintance, a casual friend, friend, or close friend.

In the second part, 112 freshmen students were asked about two people they had met since starting school two weeks previously. The researchers followed up after four and seven weeks to see what friendship achievements had been unlocked.

Results showed it takes about 40 to 60 hours to form a casual friendship, 80 to 100 hours to be upgraded to being a friend, and about 200 hours to become ‘good friends.’