Stop being a chauvinist! Too many applicants for it

My boyfriend and I broke up a year back, and are dating different people now. Recently, we met at a common friend’s party. Our respective partners weren’t present. After getting drunk, we ended up getting very intimate. He wants to meet me again, and I am afraid we may end up cheating on our partners again. What should I do? AD AD, my initials backward are BC. What a coincidence! The big question here is what does your ex-boyfriend want? In food terms, is he looking back for a Tibbs Frankie? Or is he looking for a 9-course, fine dining dinner. How serious are you both about your new partners? Here’s a simple exercise. Imagine your ex, your present boyfriend, and a rhesus monkey were all hanging from a cliff — who would you save and why? The correct answer is the monkey. If you choose one of the other two, then that’s the one you need to pursue.

I dumped my girlfriend of four years for someone else. But she dumped me within a month. So, I wanted to get back with my ex, but she said she is dating someone. I want her back anyhow. Please help.

Nitin Nitin, you are following the path of the great scientist Yaani Polygarcas, who came up with the ‘Yo-Yo Theory’. He once put his finger out of an open window, and found his finger moved both left to right and then right to left. He used this phenomenon to invent the first car wiper 60 years ago, before the first car was even invented. You have replaced the finger with girls. But what works for fingers doesn’t work for bodies. You dumped the first lady. Then you got dumped in turn. It doesn’t mean you get to reclaim the first one. In any case, she has said ‘no, thanks’. So, please YOYO elsewhere.

I am 25 and recently started dating a new girl. One day, she confessed about her past relationships and that she had been physical as well. Since then, the thought of the girl I love having sex with others has been haunting me.

Ajay Stop being a chauvinist. Too many applicants. ‘Cool dude’ is vacant. ‘Nice guy’ has been open for years. Try one of them. Virginity is an overrated concept. Instead of judging her, judge yourself. How many people did you sleep with? If not, why didn’t you? Everybody has a past. As long as she’s not a raving psychopath, genocidal maniac, or Justin Bieber fan, you’ve done fine. Get over this complex, and enjoy the present. Every time you have thoughts, think instead of really old people waxing. I find that visual pleasantly distracting.

About three months back, I got engaged to a guy whom I had met on a marriage

portal. We were supposed to get married later this year. Last week, he rang up my parents and said that he was calling off the marriage. He didn’t even have the courtesy to tell me. He has stopped taking my calls. What can I do?

RA I’ve been married for 17 years. Do me a favour — gather 10 of your married friends, and tell them your story. Then record their reactions. Most will break into a jig. Some will open champagne. A cancelled marriage is a beautiful thing — something to be enjoyed with all the senses. The guy abruptly cancelled, told your parents without telling you, and now is on the run. What does this tell you? It says that you are super lucky that you are not marrying this nincompoop. Please open some champagne. Cheers!