‘Stop dangling the poor guy’

The girl that I love likes a friend of mine, a flirt, who has dated two people at the same time in the past. He dates a woman for not more than six months. I’ve told the girl I love about all these issues. But, she says she will wait for him. DS

I wish you’d mention more of your friend’s physical characteristics, such as spots on the back of his head or one extra finger on his left hand, so that women in the future could identify him before getting entangled. The girl you love seems hopelessly in love with him, for now. You have to do exactly the same thing as her. Wait patiently. At some point, she’ll give up on him or will expose him . Till then just be her friend and confidante, so that you are the first in line when she finally opens her eyes. The Cheyenne Indian chief Balla So Ra Run (this means one who lifts his leg while walking) always rode with three horses. He would divide his ride between the three. This way he felt he would not get too attached to any single one. If you had written earlier, I would have told you to follow his lead and have three boyfriends, or if that weren’t possible then three horses. The good thing is you have come clean with yourself. You’ve had what the Cheyenne call a ‘soul bath’, which involves no soap or detergent , and hence is way cheaper. Stop dangling the poor new guy around. You need more healing time. Sadly, one has to suffer before moving on. Give the new guy a break and heal fast. He wants a break for what? To prepare for the general election of 2019 ? To plan the new financial year post April? To recover from the India Australia test matches? See, the worrying factor is you have spent three years plus together. So, in spite of the 40 degrees celsius temperature in March, he’s getting cold feet. Marriages today are very costly, and more importantly it’s almost impossible to find a good caterer. MS, confront him on an all out fashion. Otherwise you have more to lose than just a deposit. If Bhajan Samrat Anup Jalota can date Jasleen Matharu, a woman 30 years his junior, than age has been dealt with. So, stop making silly rules for yourself . Concentrate on the more important rules like a) not behaving in public, b) not letting one go and c) not watching videos of cats doing almost nothing on you tube. If you like him, you like him. This is not a tragic romance. This is your life. Get on with it.

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