I was gan­graped: Sapna Bhav­nani

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Celebrity hair­styl­ist Sapna Bhav­nani cre­ated quite a stir on so­cial media on Wed­nes­day with a Face­book post on the Hu­mans of Bom­bay page. HT City re­pro­duces the post as it is:

“When I was 14, I used to talk to boys; drive mo­tor cy­cles, smoke cig­a­rettes and peo­ple in Ban­dra would of­ten call me a whore be­cause of those things. I never un­der­stood the term back then, but sure if do­ing all those things made me a whore — I’d take it gladly. Af­ter my fa­ther’s death, I moved to Chicago where there were so many like me and it gave me the free­dom to get inked, experiment with my hair and just be my­self. One Christ­mas Eve in Chicago, I walked out of a bar alone late at night in a short dress and red lip­stick. I was 24 and had been drink­ing, when from a dump­ster a group of guys walked up to me and put a gun to my head ask­ing me to give them blow jobs, even­tu­ally lead­ing to gang rape. I re­mem­ber walk­ing home, show­er­ing and push­ing this in­ci­dent to the back of my mind for years and never let­ting it break my spirit – I still wear short dresses and the bright­est red on my lips.

In years to come, I got mar­ried to my high school sweet­heart, faced do­mes­tic vi­o­lence and walked out of the mar­riage won­der­ing how this could hap­pen to ME, a fem­i­nist? It’s be­cause some­times there are things that are be­yond your con­trol. We live in a world where ev­ery­one stresses the im­por­tance of voic­ing your­self or walk­ing out of tough sit­u­a­tions, but I just want to say this — no one wants to be beaten up, get raped or sell their bod­ies. It took me 20 years to voice my in­ci­dent, but for me, a woman keep­ing it all within her be­cause she has no other choice isn’t a sign of weak­ness – it’s a mark of strength and some­thing we need to start re­spect­ing.”

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