True love can’t be bul­lied

Hindustan Times (Patna) - Live - - Lifestyle - cyrus@hin­dus­tan­ And I’ll give you some re­lief…. err… that is, pro­vided, I’m not do­ing a head­stand at the time

I love a girl (A) from the last 30 months. I had pro­posed to her. But, at the same time, I was in love with a guy (B). And, there is another girl (C) who loves me. I re­spect the love of A, B and C. Should I choose some­one who loves me or some­one whom I love?


Mr SV, What a beau­ti­ful ques­tion! You ob­vi­ously are the most at­trac­tive man in the world. That is clear from your let­ter. You also seem to be most in­no­cent in spite of your dearly pri­mal an­i­mal mag­netism. If I had to bet I’d think you are a young Brad Pitt. Or is it Di Caprio? Sal­man? John? You loved a girl, un­for­tu­nately A, for 30 months, then you pro­posed to her. But you haven’t told us if she ac­cepted, or if she said “Give me 30 months please”. Then you say you feel for guy B. Thus im­ply­ing a free mar­ket econ­omy in ro­mance. Af­ter this bomb­shell, along came girl C who loves you. My take? Go for the guy B, and spare the girls. Also if you can’t de­cide be­tween 3 peo­ple, then you don’t re­ally love any of them. Now tell na, Ge­orge Clooney? Ma­hesh Babu? Sanju? Hrithik?

I was in a re­la­tion­ship with a guy for three years. His fam­ily wants him to get mar­ried to a girl of their choice. They are against a love mar­riage. Now, he is scared as his fam­ily has told him that they will dis­own him if he mar­ries me. He is not ready to lis­ten to me. I have at­tempted sui­cide too. What should I do? GD

It was, the fa­mous song­ster Ja­nis Jo­plin who said, “Love U is a Moon”, Ja­nis was try­ing to put into per­spec­tive how love af­fects dif­fer­ent peo­ple dif­fer­ently. For ex­am­ple, you fall for a guy, you get mar­ried, your love then af­fects your post­man. How? Well, you no longer live in your own house, so now he has the te­dious job of lo­cat­ing your new ad­dress. Your love is his pain in the pos­te­rior! Sim­i­larly your love had af­fected his par­ents so badly that they have turned into in­fants, and are clearly be­hav­ing like five-year-olds. Please don’t give into black­mail, and emo­tional arm-twist­ing if you love each other. Go to the po­lice if you need to, if they con­tinue their threats. Love can’t be bul­lied if its true love. But please be kind to your post­man.

I have a friend who was in a re­la­tion­ship with my best friend. Although, I had a se­ri­ous lik­ing for him, I didn’t in­ter­fere in their re­la­tion­ship as I didn’t want to in­trude into their hap­pi­ness. But now, he has started feel­ing for her again. He tells me ev­ery­thing. I know that he has real feel­ings for her. But my best friend won’t agree be­cause of her fam­ily. I re­ally wish to help them out. Is there any way?


LGN, not since In­dia’s great­est cin­e­matic mas­ter­piece, Dostana, (first ver­sion) with Sha­trughan Sinha and Amitabh Bachchan, have I read or seen such an ex­am­ple of true sac­ri­fice! For you to not only give away your love to your best friend, but now to guide them back to­gether, even af­ter you had a real open­ing, Wow! Take a bow! Now sit down and lis­ten. If she’s not in­ter­ested for what­ever rea­son, this is your only chance. He talks to you, con­fides in you, seize the mo­ment, or be the brides­maid. And please stop this bor­ing sci­en­tific talk! But, do keep in mind mu­tual friends are sub­ject to mar­ket risk etc. etc. etc.

I’ve been in a re­la­tion­ship for about five months. Sud­denly, one day, he said he needed time to think about our re­la­tion­ship be­cause he was miss­ing his ex. We had made fu­ture plans. I can­not take any more heart­breaks. I love him to the core. He too loves me. Please help. ANON

Anon, Anon, Anon, Chames­tee Oyewaga of the Univer­ity of Nairobi once wrote a book called Red Light, Green Light. For 807 pages he ex­plained that if a light is red, it can’t be green. Why I ac­tu­ally read the whole book is un­known to all of mod­ern science. Please know that he can’t love his ex and you si­mul­ta­ne­ously. And if he did he can’t play the suf­fer­ing hero! For­get fu­ture plans. Give him a dead­line to an­swer if it’s you or her — red light or green light.

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