‘How about not trying to force your girlfriend to do things?’

Recently, I became friends with this girl, who proposed to me a few days later. But, now she has left the coaching class where we met. She doesn’t have any contact. I don’t want to lose her. What should I do? AMP

AMP, you say she proposed to you but you didn’t clarify what happened next. Did you agree or did you stick downgrade to ‘friendship’? The coaching class will have her contact details. I mean that’s what coaching classes were invented for. To help boys and girls meet. If you passed exams, it was meant to be a bonus. So don’t waste time. She’s proposed, go find her. I mean, did you learn nothing in your class.

Recently, my girlfriend of six years started working. After which, she’d call me only once a week. Nowadays, she calls me every day because I force her to do so. But, she talks rudely, and then, we start arguing. How do I handle her? Vishal

Vishal, the answer to your queries is there in William Shakespeare’s comedy. The Merry Wives of Windsor. You find Act 2 Scene 3 and Act 5 scene 1 of great merit and assurance. Unfortunately, my wife threw my Shakespeare plays out of the house as I had kept it with my other adult literature content, if you know what I mean. By the way, Shakespeare could be quite filthy! In the meantime, how about not bossing or trying to force your girlfriend to do things? Nothing kills love more than acts of force. This explains why professional weightlifters have poor love lives. Just pull back, chill and don’t tell her what to do.

I have a crush on a cute guy who left the company where I work. He recently sent me a friend request. I don’t even know if he’s dating someone or is married. I hardly get impressed by any guy, but I like him because he appeared to be quite decent. The problem is he’s in some other city. Should I message him or forget him? ST

ST, of course, you should message him. How can you back off without knowing more? This is like having a plant, but not watering it because you’re not sure. Our society is littered with unwatered plants, as a result, people like you, who go into a state of coma whenever they are confronted by romance. You are still in the friend stage, so stay in touch. As you know in 2016, 79% of people who fell in love did so through a friend request. The rest were all on Twitter, of course.

I’ve been in relationship for almost a year. His parents are prepared to get us married. But I’m scared to tell my dad because of his chronic illness and temper. I really love this guy and want to spend my life with him. How should I tell my dad? SP

SP, you have his parents’ support plus presumably your own mother’s as well. That’s 75% of both sets of parents. This would have allowed you to avoid Brexit for God’s sake. Forget Brexit, 75% would allow you to form our government! Getting the fourth parent on your side is a game of patience. Use your collective powers of all relatives and friends to help dad come on board.