Adults should find out what their chil­dren re­ally want

Hindustan Times (Patna) - Live - - Lifestyle - Collin Ro­drigues

Last week, Don­ald Trump was sworn in as the 45th Pres­i­dent of the United States at a lav­ish cer­e­mony in Wash­ing­ton DC, USA. The event was tele­casted live through­out the world on TV. But when the cam­eras panned to Trump’s 10-year-old son, Bar­ron Trump, the boy didn’t seem to be in­ter­ested in what his fa­ther was talk­ing about. Young Bar­ron yawned sev­eral times, and could be seen try­ing to keep him­self awake. Barack Obama’s younger daugh­ter, Sasha Obama, was also pho­tographed yawn­ing at her fa­ther’s in­au­gu­ra­tion in 2013.

Bar­ron and Sasha yawn­ing at im­por­tant events in their re­spec­tive fa­thers’ lives isn’t a sign that the dos weren’t im­por­tant to the chil­dren. It’s a sign that such events jdon’t in­ter­est kids in gen­eral. In fact, most chil­dren in such a sit­u­a­tion would have be­haved just like Bar­ron and Sasha.

TAG ALONG

Adults like to take chil­dren along for par­ties, events or shop­ping with­out both­er­ing to know if kids want to go or not. But clin­i­cal psy­chol­o­gist Seema Hin­gor­rany says, “Tak­ing chil­dren to par­ties, events or for shop­ping helps them de­velop so­cial skills, an op­por­tu­nity to min­gle with friends and fam­ily, which helps later in life. But, at times if your child doesn’t want to go, it’s okay to let go.”

But, Swati Popat Vats, pres­i­dent of Po­dar ed­u­ca­tion net­work, says, “If a child is so­cially in­te­grated at events, he or she will grow up with positive in­ter­per­sonal skills. But wind­ing up late at night may af­fect a child’s health.”

Hin­go­rani says, “When we mould chil­dren a per our ex­pec­ta­tions, we stop their emo­tional and psy­cho­log­i­cal growth. hey may not like to visit cer­tain places. So, it’s ideal that you in­form them where you are tak­ing them and why.”

DE­CID­ING ON YOUR OWN

Adults of­ten sign their kids So up for ex­tracur­ric­u­lar ac­tiv­i­ties such as danc­ing, singing or mu­sic lessons to re­gard­less of their wishes, . Popat Vats says, “While the con­cept of ‘en­rich­ment classes’ is catch­ing on in In­dia, I don’t know if the term ‘en­rich­ment’ de­scribes it best. It is more of ‘keep them busy at any cost’ for some par­ents. For oth­ers, it is ‘I didn’t get a chance to learn this, so let my child do it’. ” She adds that chil­dren need and should be given free time and be al­lowed to get bored, as that’s how their cre­ativ­ity and rea­son­ing skills de­velop.

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Bar­ron Trump (above) with his mother, Me­la­nia Trump (above right) at the US Pres­i­dent Don­ald Trump in­au­gu­ra­tion in Wash­ing­ton DC, USA

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