‘It’s the dig­i­tal age, the best time to stay con­nected’

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I have been dat­ing this guy for the last two months. But, I feel he is cheat­ing on me and is not se­ri­ous about our re­la­tion­ship. At the same time, I trust him. Please help. MP

MP, when Susan Pi­mento dis­cov­ered a great stiff feel­ing in her body back in 1688, Spain, it led to the dis­cov­ery of Arthri­tis. Of course in that first case, her stiff feel­ing was due to her swal­low­ing of a pineap­ple whole. How­ever, it got her think­ing and she started in­ves­ti­gat­ing causes of stiff­ness in the body, which in turn led to her ‘break­through’ in the field of med­i­cal sci­ence. I feel you have done as thor­ough in­ves­ti­ga­tion. You have given us no-em­pir­i­cal data. You can­not trust and mis­trust him at the same time. That’s life, try­ing to be wet and dry at the same time. Some­thing, so far only per­fected in a Mar­leni. You need to con­duct a thor­ough in­ves­ti­ga­tion, or ask him point blank, or both. No point feel­ing feel­ings, with­out know­ing what feel­ings are out there, and whether your feel­ings are feel­ings you are cor­rectly feel­ing.

Cur­rently, I can’t meet my boyfriend be­cause of is­sues re­lated to my ed­u­ca­tion. So, he com­plains about it all the time and fight be­cause of petty is­sues. He feels I am wrong all the time. Though I love him, I am tired of our fights. Please help. FB

FB, Dr Atkin­son con­firmed that our per­son­al­i­ties are de­vel­oped by the time we are 10 or 11 years old. Dr Atkin­son him­self came up with this the­ory, when he was just 9 years of age. Peo­ple laughed in his face and gen­er­ally called him “Atly the fatty”. But, Atly the fatty, was ab­so­lutely right. It seems your guy has a feisty per­son­al­ity. Th­ese types ex­hibit petty com­bat­ive be­hav­iour over ev­ery­thing. Gen­er­ally speak­ing one should not take them too se­ri­ously. Only if his be­hav­iour is ex­treme, should you be wor­ried.

My boyfriend is stingy. He ex­pects me to pay all the time. Lately, we have been ar­gu­ing a lot be­cause I will be soon leav­ing my job and pay­ing for ev­ery­thing would be dif­fi­cult. How do I make him un­der­stand with­out com­ing across as a self­ish per­son? ST

ST, go to Dr Kau­rna’s clinic. He’s my col­lege batch mate. I’ll tell him you are com­ing don’t worry. Let him scan your head. He’s a brain ex­pert. He’ll do a few scans to see if it’s fallen down some­where. See, if your brain is on your shoul­der, it won’t work. It has to be above the nose, and prefer­ably be­tween the ears. If your ears are on your shoul­der, I’ll have to re­fer you to an­other doc­tor. ST, any­one with a brain will re­al­ize that if they are pay­ing for ev­ery­thing, then they are not the self­ish per­son. The self­ish per­son is the one get­ting hap­pily spon­sored. And from the looks of it, your boyfriend ain’t no Vi­raat Kholi. You need to tell him your­self that his stingi­ness, frankly sucks. Show some courage and call him out. The stingi­ness will only strain the re­la­tion­ship more and more. And in any case if you don’t have a job, how does he ex­pect you to spon­sor him? One more thing, on fu­ture dates start ‘for­get­ting’ to carry money, please.

I am in a long dis­tance re­la­tion­ship. But, we hardly call each other. At the most, we send 10 mes­sages on What­sApp ev­ery day. All this makes me sad. What should I do? CJ

CJ, the sta­tis­tics aren’t good. In re­la­tion­ships be­tween cou­ples in sep­a­rate cities, the fall out rate is 78% in the first year it­self. Only war, dis­ease and Ram Gopal Verma tweets have caused more sep­a­ra­tions. On the one hand if a cou­ple is stead­fast and true, noth­ing is im­pos­si­ble. Take the ex­am­ple of Larry and Clarissa, who spent 27 years. Larry re­mained faith­ful to Clarissa, all 27 years apart. Of course, it may have been the fact that he was locked up in soli­tary con­fine­ment. So, it’s not im­pos­si­ble, but un­likely. How­ever in this dig­i­tal age you’ve got your best chance of stay­ing con­nected. So be positive.

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