Don’t let so­cial me­dia af­fect your re­la­tion­ship

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So­cial me­dia is in­creas­ingly be­com­ing that plat­form where you can prove your love for your part­ner. But, there are cer­tain dos and don’ts that one def­i­nitely needs to fol­low if you want a long-term re­la­tion­ship with ‘The one’.

“So­cial me­dia is a slip­pery slope,” said Rachel Suss­man, a re­la­tion­ship ex­pert and cou­ples ther­a­pist. When she sees cou­ples fight about post­ing too many pho­tos or “lik­ing” an ex’s pho­tos long af­ter they have bro­ken up, she steps in to help set healthy bound­aries.

Here are her so­cial me­dia rules for cou­ples, as re­ported by The In­de­pen­dent.

Dates = no-phone zone: Date nights are for spend­ing time with your part­ner, not your thou­sands of “friends” and fol­low­ers. Keep phones off or silent, as well as out of sight to re­sist the temp­ta­tion of scrolling through your feed. Set a time to un­plug: Check­ing your phone be­fore bed is bad for your sleep sched­ule, any­way. “There should be a cer­tain time at night you turn it off,” she said. Ask be­fore post­ing pic­tures: It’s a nice thing to do in gen­eral, but es­pe­cially when it comes to your sig­nif­i­cant other. They might have a dif­fer­ent idea of what’s ac­cept­able for pub­lic con­sump­tion. Or they just might not like the way they look in that photo. Play it safe and ask.

Don’t fol­low your exes’ ac­counts: Un­less your ex is in your so­cial cir­cle, your cur­rent part­ner knows them, and enough time has passed for that ship to have sailed, there’s no need to fol­low your ex on so­cial me­dia, much less creep on their ac­counts.

Don’t “like” their pho­tos ei­ther: “You do hear a lot of sto­ries about peo­ple hav­ing af­fairs with old boyfriends or girl­friends on Face­book or In­sta­gram,” said Suss­man. “That can be danger­ous. Why not keep your so­cial cir­cle to peo­ple who are truly in your so­cial cir­cle?”

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