Here’s how to sur­vive a breakup: Start with hon­esty

Hindustan Times (Patna) - Live - - Time Out -

If you think you’re flog­ging a dead re­la­tion­ship, get­ting over the breakup is much tougher than you ever imag­ined. Here’s how to sur­vive a breakup. You might know it’s the right de­ci­sion for both of you, but still, breaking up isn’t easy. Of­ten peo­ple, who have made peace with their de­ci­sion, do not know the best way to break off and wish that some kind of blueprint was avail­able in how to ap­proach such a dif­fi­cult sit­u­a­tion.

To handle the dif­fi­cult de­ci­sion, re­la­tion­ship ther­a­pist Gur­preet Singh says, “Breaking up is re­ally hard. There are no hard and fast rules about when a re­la­tion­ship is over. It’s a feeling that builds over time that things just aren’t right, and you’re not happy with each other. Bad times are out­weigh­ing the good. And it doesn’t feel like it used to.”

The be­gin­ning of a re­la­tion­ship can be in­tox­i­cat­ing and it’s easy to get swept away in a bubble of hap­pi­ness. But with time, life changes and the mad­ness wears off. “As things de­te­ri­o­rate, both part­ners ex­pe­ri­ence a range of emo­tions like up­set, anger, sad­ness, shock, let down and per­haps even a bit of re­lief as the reality of the in­evitable breakup sets in,” says Singh.

How­ever, the most im­por­tant fac­tor, while breaking up with some­one is hon­esty. It is im­por­tant to be hon­est with your part­ner and your­self by ex­plain­ing all the rea­sons you have for end­ing the re­la­tion­ship. It’s im­por­tant not to leave any stones un­turned, even if you feel it is nicer to hide cer­tain parts of the truth.

“Talk to your part­ner, faceto-face, give your rea­sons and even try to un­der­stand the other per­son’s thoughts,” Singh says.

How to act af­ter a break-up can also be dif­fi­cult to nav­i­gate. Some may never want to see each other again, while oth­ers will rush to be friends, which can also be harder than both part­ners may orig­i­nally think.

OF­TEN PEO­PLE WHO HAVE MADE PEACE WITH THE DE­CI­SION DO NOT KNOW THE BEST WAY TO BREAK OFF AND WISH THAT SOME KIND OF BLUEPRINT WAS AVAIL­ABLE

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