Key to get­ting a sec­ond date!

Hindustan Times (Patna) - Live - - Lifestyle -

First dates are al­ways filled with as­sump­tions and ten­sion as to whether it will lead to a sec­ond date or not. To end that nerve-rack­ing mode, a new study has found that one thing that can lead your first date to a sec­ond: Be nosy!

Re­searchers from Har­vard Univer­sity, US, found that ask­ing a lot of ques­tions about your date and their life, makes him/her more feel more con­nected. Many sin­gle peo­ple are wor­ried about seem­ing too in­tru­sive on a first date, but psy­chol­o­gists say that show­ing gen­uine in­ter­est in some­one can boost your chances of them want­ing to see you again, re­ports the In­de­pen­dent.

In or­der to reach their con­clu­sions, the re­searchers an­a­lysed three speed-dat­ing ses­sions, where 110 men and women had just four min­utes to get to know each other.

They were asked, which peo­ple they would like to see again and recorded the con­ver­sa­tion. The re­searchers also paid at­ten­tion to when par­tic­i­pants asked fol­low-up ques­tions about their dates, show­ing gen­uine in­ter­est and delv­ing be­low the sur­face. They then cross-ref­er­enced the find­ings!

The men, in the study, wanted to go on a sec­ond date with more than half the women they met, whereas, women only wanted to go out again with just over a third of the men. While the av­er­age num­ber of ques­tions asked was 10, those who asked 15 were likely to get at least one more sec­ond date.

“Speed daters who ask more fol­low-up ques­tions are more likely to elicit agree­ment for sec­ond dates,” the re­searchers wrote in the Jour­nal of Per­son­al­ity and So­cial Psy­chol­ogy. “De­spite the per­sis­tent and ben­e­fi­cial ef­fects of ask­ing ques­tions, peo­ple do not an­tic­i­pate that it in­creases in­ter­per­sonal lik­ing. They may be un­sure about what to ask, or worry about be­ing per­ceived as rude,” they added.

ASK­ING A LOT OF QUES­TIONS ABOUT YOUR DATE AND THEIR LIFE MAKES HIM/HER MORE FEEL MORE CON­NECTED, IN TURN, BOOST­ING CHANCES OF A SEC­OND DATE

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