What it means when a stranger strikes a con­ver­sa­tion with you

Hindustan Times (Patna) - Live - - Lifestyle - Collin Ro­drigues colin.ro­drigues@hin­dus­tan­times.com

While wait­ing for a cab, rick­shaw or bus, very of­ten, you may have no­ticed that some­one may of­fer to help you hail the ve­hi­cle. Al­though this could be a sin­cere of­fer, it could also be an ex­cuse to strike a con­ver­sa­tion with a com­plete stranger. The per­son may try to be­friend and woo you, if ev­ery­thing goes as planned. Now, a sur­vey by a dat­ing app has given a whole new per­spec­tive to this style of ap­proach­ing peo­ple. Ac­cord­ing to the sur­vey by the dat­ing app Happn, peo­ple in a re­la­tion­ship are more likely to en­gage in a con­ver­sa­tion with some­one they don’t know in a pub­lic place than a per­son who is sin­gle. The find­ings of the sur­vey may come as a sur­prise to most of us. Wasn’t it a given that the per­son who tries to talk to a stranger, with the in­ten­tion of woo­ing him or her, is sup­posed to be sin­gle?

BABY STEPS

Re­la­tion­ship ex­pert Dr Vishnu Modi be­lieves that those in re­la­tion­ships may strike con­ver­sa­tions with strangers with­out the in­ten­tion of dat­ing. He says that such peo­ple try to test the waters first. Modi says, “When peo­ple from the op­po­site sex talk to strangers, the kind of re­ac­tion they get at first is very im­por­tant. If the per­son, whom they ap­proach, ap­pears re­cep­tive to them, they take it ahead from there. In most cases, some­one won’t talk to a stranger, if he or she has seen her or him for the first time at a par­tic­u­lar place. An in­di­vid­ual will try talk­ing to a per­son only if he or she has seen some­one at a par­tic­u­lar lo­ca­tion very of­ten.” Modi says the next step would be ask­ing for his or her phone num­ber. “How­ever, get­ting the phone num­ber doesn’t nec­es­sar­ily mean that a per­son has fallen for you. If dat­ing him or her is your in­ten­tion, then pur­su­ing this per­son for long may give you your de­sired results. So, dat­ing some­one you spoke to at a mall for the first time isn’t that easy af­ter all.”

TAK­ING RISKS

But what about peo­ple who are al­ready in a re­la­tion­ships? Con­sul­tant psy­chi­a­trist Rid­dhish K Maru be­lieves that peo­ple who are dat­ing do this be­cause they want to try new op­tions. He says, “Too of­ten, over a pe­riod of time, ex­ist­ing re­la­tion­ships lose their charm. It’s only peo­ple in such re­la­tion­ships who look for new op­tions.”

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