How to find out if you’re dating a commitment-phobe

Getting into a serious relationship is itself a major decision. But what if your partner falls into the most dreaded of all dating categories — commitment phobic? A list by relationship expert Tracey Cox can help you spot someone with a fear of commitment, and what you can do to prevent getting hurt, reported The Independent.

People with these traits tend to be afraid of being hurt because of their experience of past relationships. If they have been in a previous relationship that ended badly or their parents separated venomously they might be less likely commit out of fear.

Similarly, a string of short-term relationships — always wanting to be in control and not wanting to make plans — should send warning signals.

The relationship expert highlights that commitmentphobes can be “ultracharming” to begin with but once they’ve got you, that fades away. They also tend to put their needs first, refrain from sharing intimate details and are likely to panic at the mere mention of the word ‘commitment’.

Still not convinced whether or not your partner is holding back? Cox says that most commitment phobes have problems obliging to pretty much anything. So, if they don’t pay bills or are always late, this could be why.

If you realise that you’re dating a commitment phobe, don’t try to change to accommodate them, she advises. “They either want you, or they don’t!”

PHOTO: ISTOCK If you realise that you’re dating a commitment-phobe, don’t try to change to accommodate them