If she blocks you on WhatsApp, she’s not interested in you

I recently had sex with a married woman, who has kids. When I told this to my elder brother, he scolded me. Now, he, too, wants to have sex with this woman. But I don’t want anyone else to make love with her. What should I do?

Confused Bro The question to ask here, Bro, is — Could it be that your brother is the greatest human being ever? I think there is no doubt that he is. Let’s examine his very mature response. First, he scolds you for having sex with her. Then, he tells you to organise his life, so he can sleep with her, too. Bro, she’s married. Bro, you’re not a pimp. Tell your brother to find another hobby. A safer one like Kabuki. She stands to lose her family, so think carefully about all this. And please feel free to go to the relative shop and return your brother. Exchange him for an old jacket, or anything with more moral fibre. I like a girl in my class. I tried talking to her by sending her WhatsApp messages. But, I couldn’t gauge if she had feelings for me. Should I confess my feelings directly to her or wait for some assurance? DT Details, DT. Life is in the details. What was her response to your WhatsApp messages? For example, if you sent her “Hi, what’s up” and she replies with “you tell me”, that’s a good response. However, if she replies (a) I have no idea, (b) Who are you, (c) Why are you WhatsApping me, that’s not such a good response. If her reply was a unicorn emoticon, then I have no idea of her response either. So, please don’t confess your feelings. First, get her to send you direct responses. Only when you get positive responses can you move ahead. By the way, if she blocks you on WhatsApp, I hope you know what that means. My girlfriend and I are madly in love with each other. However, after a lot of quarrels in the last two months, she wants to be just friends with me. I think all our issues can be resolved. What’s your take on this? PM PM, why are you fighting so much? The Thai Monk Lepuchan used to fight with his wife consistently. But, the moment that he attained Nirvana, the fighting stopped; partly, I suppose because she passed away while he was attaining Nirvana. Now, the bad part for you is the fighting has got to her, so she wants to lower the relationship status. You have to be on your very best behaviour now; swallow your ego and turn pacifist. Prove to her that your fighting days are done. It’s too late for you to attain Nirvana, but you can still win her back. My boyfriend of three years got married to someone else saying that it was a contract marriage for settling abroad. But, I have got to know that that he lied to me and that both the families were involved. Even though he is staying with his wife abroad, he doesn’t want to end the relationship with me. He says he will divorce her. What should I do?

JK JK, the poet Pablo Picasso Junior said, “The proof of the pudding lies in the eating of the entire pudding in one gulp”. I still don’t understand his poetry; nobody does. But I don’t understand you either. The guy already ditched you, went along with a planned wedding, is living abroad, but wants to keep you on the side? Is this the position you asked for? Is he really going to divorce her? I’d say tell him to end his marriage first, change his clothes, and then contact you. Suspend him from all relations with you, for the duration of his marriage.