WHEN YOU ARE NOT READY FOR A MARRIAGE

You are lonely and looking for support. Like in the case of Sana Banik, a sales professional, who used to stay alone in the city. She was in a relationship for seven years and wanted to tie the knot to solve her issues of loneliness, as her partner used to stay with his family. When they got married, she moved into his home and couldn’t gel with his family. Within a month, she started missing her independent life. Three months later, she moved back into her home. Her husband couldn’t move in with her, because his parents needed his support.

You want to get married because your parents or society wants you to. Harpreet Chahal, an advertising executive and the eldest among three sons, tied the knot because his parents felt his siblings’ marriages were getting delayed because of him. He bowed to his parents’ pressure and soon realised that he had taken the wrong decision. Before marrying Neha Anand, a copywriter, he dated her for six months. When he started dating her, his sole intention was to marry her. After their marriage, he realised that Neha hadn’t gotten over her ex and was secretly meeting him. Now, he is not divorcing her, because he fears his reputation will be tarnished.

You keep secrets from your partner. This shows that you don’t trust him/her. If you don’t trust your partner now, you won’t be able to do so in the future. Without trust, your marriage will fall apart in no time. When you have the same arguments over and over, it means something is wrong. You are not getting the message or you want to have your own way. You have an exit plan even before you tie the knot. If this happens, it means you are not sure what you are getting into. It means you have your doubts, and are subconsciously preparing yourself for divorce.