Don’t hurry your relationship, enjoy each other’s company

One year after falling in love with my best friend, I confessed my feelings. She started ignoring me. Now, there is not contact between us. But, I still can’t move on. SB, when you apply for a job, and they e-mail you that you’ve not got it, you simply drink 7 glasses of Jack Daniel and move on. (Similarly SB, (without the I), you’ve applied for a post as her lover, and she has clearly rejected the proposal. The only more obvious thing she could do is stamp ‘rejected’ on your forehead which I wish she had done, so you wouldn’t have written to me. However, since you need closure, and frankness should be rewarded, ask her (by sms/ email), to signal her reply. It’ll hurt, but at least you’ll have no doubt.

My aunt’s sister’s son proposed to me. He keeps telling me about it, and this disturbs me. I feel guilty that I can’t reciprocate. If I keep talking to him, it will aggravate his pain. I don’t want to lose such a good friend. What should I do? KG, isn’t your aunt’s sister also you aunt? Keeping relations aside, simple because there are different rules in different cultures, and more importantly, I’m confused about the status of your aunt’s sister, who according to you is not your aunt as well. I suggest you decide how important this so called “friendship” is. You can’t fool him, he wants more. It’s like Imogen Thomas, who had a pet tiger. Initially, tiger only wanted to play. But then later on, he got a little hungry. And although he ate Imogen up completely, he did feel guilty and regurgitate a lot of him. But it was a case of too little Imogen, too late. Your guy wants more than friendship. Most likely he’ll sulk and withdraw with the rejection. But you can’t lead him. If he tries to eat you, please write to me urgently.

I’ve become friends with a co-worker. I’ve developed a crush for him. Even people in our office think we have something. Since I have ego, I won’t tell him about my feelings first. Can you suggest something to take me out of this misery? Devika, what’s the hurry? Lots of people became best of friends after initially being worst if enemies. What do you think God’s plan for Indo/pak relations is? You have just started enjoying each other’s company. Why do you need to set the relationship in store so fast? So many great relationship remained pure and strong without any formality. Robinson Crusoe and Friday. Simon and Garfunkel. Kim Jong Un and his mirror, to name just three. Great momentum to allow your romance to bloom naturally. Thanks to our traffic, you’ll only get to spend more and more time together. It’ll all fall in place naturally. If you survive a relationship in a vehicle in India, you can survive anything?

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