‘Build her confidence; avoid love donations’

I’m in a relationship with a girl. But the problem is that one of her friends has a crush on me and always tries to interfere. My girlfriend is upset because of her behaviour. How should I avoid her? Confused Soul

Confused soul or should I say love rascal. “Love is not rocket science”. This is a quote by Chinese philosopher Fan Ling who used this quote before rockets were invented. You obviously enjoy the attention, which is okay in a limited capacity, but the answer you seek is pretty simple. According to sage Dharamveer, you have to follow a three step process. First go into the forest. Second, turn your head to the sky. Third, ignore this girl, or tell her not to waste her time by barking up your….er tree. If you truly love your girlfriend, you gotta shake the other girl lose. And you can avoid her by avoiding her. I have been chatting with a girl for a while now. I know she is interested in me. I am scared of asking her out because if she says no, she may stop talking to me. What should I do? But, AT why are you scared to ask her out? Have you heard that she turns into a werewolf outside? Does she have criminal cases pending against her, and its two ways, (that is she’s chatting back), then you’ve already done better than the average Indian male. (We normally have imaginary conversations with our lovers). Also please go online and check on Amazon or Flipkart, if you can buy some courage. Stop feeling all this fear. Yes, ask her out. That is the next step after chatting, and engaging in regular conversation. There’s no guarantees in life, but please try and do something, while the girl is still under the age of 75. I am 55 and last year I fell in love with a widow who is 10 years younger to me. I often visit her at the small shop that she runs. I have even given her gifts and helped her financially. Recently, she stopped talking to me. She has asked me stop visiting her because she may get a bad name in the society. Please help. RKJ RKJ, congratulations firstly on your choice of younger lover. 10 years younger than you is great news. Well done. I’m not a fan of the money thing though. Did you want her to be your lover or you are an NGO? Also, she seems a little socially embarrassed by the whole song and dance for whatever reason. You suggest, you take this offline and talk to her privately. Concentrate on the friendship and avoid loud gestures to her in public. She needs to engage on a more personal level first. Build her confidence, and avoid ‘love’ donations. That’s only needed if you are in a cult.