Hindustan Times ST (Jaipur) - Hindustan Times (Jaipur) - City - - Time Out - CYRUS BROACHA MM JS

I love my boyfriend a lot. We want to marry, but my par­ents aren’t sure about his fi­nan­cial stand­ing. He re­fuses to di­vulge any in­for­ma­tion about it and wants the par­ents to talk it out in­stead. He has stopped talk­ing to me about per­sonal is­sues say­ing that he doesn't know where he stands with me. I am feel­ing de­pressed be­cause of lack of close­ness due to which of which my in­de­ci­sive­ness in­creases. Please help. MM, this is not very good. If he was a foot­baller you’d be is­su­ing him a yel­low card. That is a warn­ing. Se­crecy is a very dan­ger­ous thing. Re­mem­ber the broth­ers Gilead­ean of Tbil­isi Ge­or­gia? They were se­cre­tive and hated to di­vulge in­for­ma­tion. Once, a bear was creep­ing up be­hind one brother; the other refused to warn him of it. Al­though the bear turned out to be very just, and ate both broth­ers, it was se­crecy that caused all the trou­ble in the first place. I say you give him his ‘yel­low’ card. If he keeps fi­nan­cial se­crets from you now, it’ll only get worse with time. Tell him to spill the beans, or send him off the field.

I met a girl at my birth­day party. We talked a lit­tle on In­sta­gram. But, af­ter a few days, she stopped re­ply­ing. A friend told me not to talk to her. I don’t know why. But, I want to tell her how much I like her. What should I do? Firstly, you ‘gram’ on In­sta­gram, you don’t talk. JS, have you ever talked to a paint­ing? Or to a cur­tain? Or to bench? Did the paint­ing talk back to you? Did the cur­tain ask for time? Did the bench say it’ll call you back? No there was no re­sponse. Quite nat­u­rally you won’t pur­sue a di­a­logue with the bench, or the paint­ing, or the cur­tain? Then JS, why the hell are you pur­su­ing this girl. She’s ‘switched off ’ you. Your com­mon friend has con­firmed the is­sue, so why waste your time and hers? She is clearly not in­ter­ested. I’ve been in a re­la­tion­ship for three years. My girl­friend’s fa­ther wants her to get mar­ried. But, next year, I’m mov­ing to Canada for post-grad­u­a­tion stud­ies. Her dad won’t let her marry me. What should I do? VM VM, when Genghis Khan’s army mas­sa­cred the area which to­day is known as mod­ern day La­hore, he had a choice. Face even more foul weather and dust by en­ter­ing the In­dian border. Land or go to­wards the cold climes of Rus­sia. Since you are not writ­ing this letter in Mon­go­lian, clearly he chose Rus­sia. My ridicu­lous point is that, ge­og­ra­phy forced his de­ci­sion. Ge­og­ra­phy is also forc­ing yours. Canada is a good thing. It al­lows you to put all your cards on the ta­ble, in­clud­ing your Aad­haar Card which you won’t be us­ing in Canada. You and her have to de­cide who’s life it is, her’s or her dad’s? Canada is a test. If she loves you, she needs to han­dle her fa­ther. It’s as sim­ple as that.

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