States, like individual citizens, need to be brave
She has five tattoos and, under her baseball cap, hair coloured ash blue. Born with spina bifida, she often travels alone in her wheelchair. In the Rio Paralympics she took a bronze in the 100m breaststroke but was a Singaporean icon well before that. Yet, the one reason to listen to Theresa Goh is this: Her bravery.
Goh laughs – she does this a lot – when you talk of her courage in recently coming out as gay to Singapore’s largest daily, The Straits Times. “It was easier for me,” she shrugs. “I don’t have to worry about food on the table or losing my job or the support of my family, friends and sponsors. It’s not that easy for so many others.”
So, why come out?
“This is the role I am in -- a queer, disabled, paralympic medalist athlete,” laughs the 30-year-old. “I did not choose it, but I am in service of a greater good, of a more inclusive society.”
Goh is one of three brand ambassadors at Singapore’s annual LGBTQ rally, Pink Dot, now in its ninth year. The event, being held today, is a reminder that Singapore, like India, criminalises same sex relationships.
Singapore’s Penal Code absorbed India’s section 377, word for word. In 2007, Singapore scrapped 377, but continued to criminalise sexual acts between men under a new section, 377A. As a woman, Goh is not violating any law, but finds it galling that, “We pay taxes same as everyone else, so why don’t we have the same rights?” Included in those rights is the right to marry.
Singapore’s argument for retaining 377A is that the majority of its citizens are in favour of it. Certainly some Christian and Muslim religious groups remain loud opponents to the idea of same sex relationships.
But proof of a new climate can be seen in the growing support for Pink Dot. This year, when foreign sponsors were banned, 120 local sponsors stepped in (there were just five last year), raising over $240,000. “We believe a society will thrive with tolerance and diversity,” one of the sponsors, Jane Goh, was quoted in The Straits Times.
Speaking to Theresa Goh at a coffee shop in a Singapore mall, it strikes me that governments, like citizens, need to be brave. If one woman in a wheelchair can speak up then surely countries must step up. A nation’s progress is not merely measured in terms of GDP but also in terms of inclusion and acceptance. A nation’s courage lies in being unafraid of doing what is morally right. A country’s greatness lies in leading a more just world.
“Be kind. Be brave. Be yourself,” says Goh. It would be good if governments all over the world heard her.
IF ONE WOMAN LIKE RIO PARALYMPICS MEDALLIST THERESA GOH CAN SPEAK UP FOR RIGHTS OF LGBT PEOPLE, THEN COUNTRIES MUST STEP UP FOR AN INCLUSIVE SOCIETY
Our scriptures are full of stories that tell us that good deeds never get wasted and come back to us in shape of good karma. Sometimes, when we are in dire need of help, it manifests from nowhere like a miracle. People, in their course of life, keep accumulating wealth without putting them into any tangible use with the hope that someday they would need it. Thereafter, too much wealth is left that leads to inheritance issues and many a times inheritors gets entangled in legal hassles.
While in course of earning, one should try to strike a balance so that savings are used for the good of their family and surplus resources shared among the needy. I’ve seen people having crores in their bank account but haggling with housemaids and drivers on meagre amounts.
I remember, once my father was on the verge of bankruptcy, while my elder sister was getting engaged. He went to the bank to withdraw a few hundred rupees but came back with a few thousand. Earlier, he had lent money to a bank employee for his sister’s marriage. That day, the person, who was then the manager, returned him the money. We never know when our good deeds return to us.