Training to be assertive

ideas to the other person.

don’t feel guilty

Just because you are refusing a favour or turning down another person’s request, does not mean you hold yourself responsible for hurting the other person. If the other person’s request is unreasonable, or not feasible for you, it is necessary for you to say a ‘no’, without feeling guilty, as nobody has the right to take advantage of your politeness.

assertiveness doesn’t make you selfish

Remember, being assertive simply means putting you own needs on an equal platform with the needs of the other person. This is important for not just your own well-being, but also is helpful in resolving conflicts effectively.

Try the ‘broken record’ technique

Sometimes, despite communicating yourself assertively, it is possible that the other person might persist in persuading you. In such situations, it is very helpful to simply repeat your point several times. Repetition will help not just make your point clearer, and will save you the effort of giving further explanations.

it doesn’t mean assert yourself aLWays

While making efforts to practice the art of assertiveness, it is a common tendency to try to be assertive at all times, even when not necessary. But remember to pick your battles, and reserve your efforts for those situations which are worth it.