How To Revel In Fe­male At­ten­tion at 85

Hindustan Times ST (Mumbai) - Brunch - - INDULGE -

Ad­man Alyque Padamsee re­veals the se­cret po­tion for stay­ing young and cre­ative... for­ever!

THE BIG­GEST se­cret to feel­ing young is to never stop meet­ing pretty girls. It’s one of the first things I learned in life. I was 19 when I fell in love with Pearl, my first wife. I wanted to marry her, and my par­ents, who were quite strict and rather tra­di­tional, asked me how I could when I didn’t have a job or money. And Pearl had two daugh­ters from her pre­vi­ous mar­riage. But I de­fied my par­ents, and that’s how I ended up get­ting into ad­ver­tis­ing — my first job was as a copy­writer, for 300 a month.

I’ve had three mar­riages.

Pearl was a won­der­ful per­son, and we were ec­stat­i­cally happy for 10-15 years. But even­tu­ally, I found the ad­ven­ture had gone. Any prod­uct, whether it’s a mar­riage or a food prod­uct, has a sell-by date. It gets stale, bor­ing, and monotonous. I’m a cre­ative per­son who’s over-in­flu­enced by Pi­casso and other artists. I be­lieve that you have to have a muse. For me, that has al­ways been women. And the muse can’t be the same all your life; you have to re­new the idea. So I found an­other. And then an­other. And yet, I don’t share a bit­ter re­la­tion­ship with my ex-wives. I’m close to all my kids, and share a won­der­ful re­la­tion­ship with them.

Life should be full of joy, and I’m a great be­liever in the say­ing ‘ev­ery cloud has a sil­ver lin­ing’. Even if you’re down in the dumps, and a tragedy or a big prob­lem arises, the sun is wait­ing to peek out. Most young peo­ple to­day have never learned that. You must get in­volved in life, to not let a sin­gle minute go with­out think­ing of some­thing ex­cit­ing, whether that’s your girl­friend/ boyfriend, or even a big exam. The at­ti­tude should be ‘wow, what a chal­lenge’, and not ‘what a prob­lem’. The word ‘prob­lem’ should be ban­ished from the dic­tionary. The only an­ti­dote to anx­i­ety is ac­tion, to­gether they make the three As.

When I wake up in the morn­ing, I have my break­fast, and then work on two lists. One is a hate list, which, as the name im­plies, in­cludes things like pay­ing my in­sur­ance, go­ing for a med­i­cal checkup, phon­ing clients who owe me money. My love list is call­ing up my daugh­ter, my son, my girl­friend, and read at least a chap­ter from a book I find ex­cit­ing. In fact, I love Shake­speare and he helped me find a solution to some­thing I find very bor­ing – ex­er­cise. The doc­tor said I must walk and I got a tread­mill which I would use ev­ery night while watch­ing my favourite show on TV. And when that ended, I stopped us­ing the tread­mill. My daugh­ter, Shaz­ahn, said she’ll get me some more DVDs but I thought of a solution. Now ev­ery night, I walk up and down my hall, and I re­cite Shake­speare. I’ve al­ready done seven of his plays and I in­tend to do the rest of the 28.

I have been re­cently in­vited to New York Univer­sity to give a talk on In­dian play­wrights in Oc­to­ber. Many peo­ple won­der if this is the age to go abroad. But my daugh­ter will be com­ing with me, she’s a won­der­ful com­pan­ion, and we’re go­ing to have a great time. The other day a friend asked me, what is it that you’re most ex­cited about when you go there? Surely Broad­way? I said yes, I will go on Broad­way and also see the plays off Broad­way, but what I’m look­ing for­ward to the most is go­ing to a very fa­mous disco that has just opened. I love danc­ing and go to Hard Rock Café in Bom­bay at least once in a month. Now, I’m go­ing to go to the

New York one.

I’m very happy to be alive and when I have to go, which will be in some time, I tell my friends, don’t grieve. Just say he lived a full life, fall­ing in love with every­thing. That’s my phi­los­o­phy – fall in love with life, ev­ery day. As Frank Si­na­tra sang, “If you’re young at heart...”

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