There’s no right time to say ‘I love you’.
As a survey find outs that most people say ‘I love you’ after three months, experts tell us it’s never too soon or too late to say the three words
Ilove you’ may just be three simple words used in our everyday life. But when it comes to relationships, the three words may be arguably, the most important. Often, depending on when you say the three words, it can make or break a relationship. Now, a new survey done by YouGov, has found out that most people (22%) say ‘I love you’ to the person they are dating after three months. While 13% said ‘I love you’ within the first month, 14% said after six months.
So, how soon is too soon, and how long is too long to say I love you? Clinical psychologist Tanushree Bhargava says there is no fixed time to say ‘I love you’ to a person. She says, “There is nothing like a special occasion or time in a relationship when you should say ‘I love you’. You don’t need to necessarily complete a certain number of days before According to a 2011 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, men said ‘I love you’ first as a way of gaining their partner’s trust and ease the way to sex. “The decision to say they feel love first can make sense strategically. Expressions of love can serve other kinds of gains, like short-term romantic relationships,” said Joshua Ackerman, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Michigan, who is one of the authors of the study. dating a person to say ‘I love you’. But, one should be confident about their (dating partner) emotions and feelings for the person. You should be also able to differentiate between liking, lust and loneliness. You should say ‘I love you’ when you are comfortable with your partner, feel secure and are ready to commit and can visualise your future together.”
BAD RECEPTION
At times, you could be ready to say ‘I love you,’ to your dating partner, and say it with great enthusiasm. But, this could ruin your bond with your date if he or she doesn’t love you or is not ready to get into a relationship with you. So, what do you do in such a situation? Relationship expert Vishnu Modi says that it’s very rare that two people who are dating, fall in love with each other at the same time. He says, “The chances that your date says ‘I love you too’ are slim. But, one should not panic and feel embarrassed. Remember that you are dating the person and love will eventually happen. So, now that your partner knows the truth, may also help later.”