‘HARSH HELPED ME CHANGE HOW I THINK’

Bharti Singh talks about the pres­sure women feel be­fore mar­riage; says a part­ner’s ac­cep­tance boosts your self­esteem

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Girls feel more pres­sure than boys when it comes to get­ting mar­ried,” says Bharti Singh, who is get­ting ready to tie the knot with her fi­ancé, writer Harsh Lim­bachiyaa, this De­cem­ber. She con­tin­ues, “We might have pro­gressed in other ar­eas, but the In­dian men­tal­ity re­mains the same. So­ci­ety still dif­fer­en­ti­ates be­tween girls and boys. Par­ents think who would marry their daugh­ter if she gets fat. When a boy is fat, he isn’t asked to lose weight, but a girl has to be slim in or­der to get mar­ried. Girls go into de­pres­sion due to the pres­sure. They go to gyms and work out like crazy to lose weight, and that might not be easy for ev­ery­one,” says the come­di­enne.

How­ever, Bharti adds that Harsh has mo­ti­vated her to feel con­fi­dent about her­self. She says, “I used to be quite neg­a­tive, but Harsh helped me change the way I think, and that’s why I am such a pos­i­tive per­son to­day. He pam­pers me like a kid. I never ex­pe­ri­enced that, be­cause my dad passed away when I was young and my mom used to work, so I missed be­ing pam­pered. Women can go to any ex­tent for the man they love, but when he ap­pre­ci­ates them for the way they are and not the way he wants them to be, then they have a great re­la­tion­ship.”

Bharti cred­its Harsh for en­cour­ag­ing her to dress in a cer­tain way, em­brace her looks and show­case them in the best pos­si­ble man­ner. “I was un­aware of how to go about groom­ing my­self, but Harsh was help­ful. To­day, I dress up in de­signer wear and peo­ple com­pli­ment me on my looks and out­fits. He told me not to be stuck up on the fact that I am fat and have a paunch. Plus­size women can dress up in a stylish man­ner too,” she says.

Women can go to any ex­tent for the man they love, but when he ap­pre­ci­ates them for the way they are and not they way he wants them to be, then they have a won­der­ful re­la­tion­ship. BHARTI SINGH, COME­DI­ENNE

PHOTO: LUV ISRANI

Bharti Singh and Harsh Lim­bachiyaa

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