‘What’s right is right’
I am 24, and unfortunately I still don’t have a girlfriend who I can share my feelings and emotions with. So, sometimes, I crib about this aspect of my life, and at the same time I feel it’s great to be independent. On the other hand, the cribbing kills me internally. Now, I am confused about this whole situation and need help. Should I have a girlfriend? SY SY, let me begin by saying that by spelling your name right, y ou are spelling my name wrong. Always spell CY as CY and not SY. Your question is part existentialist and part romantic. Shall we say Romantentialist? Firstly, why do you need to share your feelings and emotions with a girlfriend? You can share them with a parrot, with a canine, with a tree and with a plastic bag (the kind of plastic that’s not banned of course). You could also do what all gainfully employed people do, that is share your thoughts on Facebook, er or whatever’s come after Facebook. First, let nature take its course. See if she’s interested in you. If she is, you’ll soon get to unload all your feelings at her doorstep. For now, keep your feelings a little to yourself. There are too many feelings running around freely in the world.
My parents don’t want me and my boyfriend to be together because he hails from a different state. The problem is I can’t leave him and I don’t want to hurt my parents at the same time. My parents as well as my boyfriend are important to me. What should I do? JS It had to happen. We lead the world in racism, casteism, communalism, and so it had to follow. Finally, it’s here — Stateism, which is a form of regional racism. Please understand that the right and wrong in this case is very clear. You are right, and your regionally racist parents are wrong. Remember, when a spoilt brat was misbehaving, instead of censuring him, people around him started negotiating with him? The result was he got empowered, and grew up to be the tyrant Pol Pot, and we all know what legacy he left behind in South East Asia. Don’t empower your parents. Rebuke them. Censure them. Find a way to make them understand. Maybe tell your dad, you won’t let him watch any cricket match, till he snaps out of his bigoted thinking. Stand your ground. What’s right is right.
I am 25, and my girlfriend broke up with me about six months back. I have been unable to move on since then; I think about her throughout the day. I can’t concentrate on things. I have shifted to a new city and I don’t have any friends here. Instagram and Snapchat aren’t helpful and I am not made for Tinder. Please help me move on. Aman Aman, I think your situation was explained beautifully by Anne M. Ugooodoo. In the book, HowUgooodoo, do you do? Anne explained that after a breakup you need a period of time for grieving. This time could be six months, nine months, or as in my case, seven minutes. You have to — and this is as important as wearing an underwear — before attempting a pole vault, get the whole affair out of your system. Anne calls it a ‘Love-Vomit’. Only then you can move on. You are still moping for her Aman. Let the heart heal. It takes time. But heal it will. Then your body will have an amazing positive energy about it, and you’ll restart the chase in right earnest. I’m also enclosing a list (off like) of all other things that you must wear underwear for.
A few days back, my girlfriend of eight months stopped talking to me suddenly. But, I found out that she was talking to a guy over the phone for long hours, sometimes all night. Once, while he was talking to her, I called him up to find out who he was. He spoke to me, but he also made me speak to her on a conference call immediately. She told me he is a school friend. Now, it’s been a month and she has stopped taking my calls. Please help. SE SE, sorry, what part of her behaviour do you not understand? See, I can’t understand, why you can’t understand, because I’ve understood her immediately. She has dropped you from the playing eleven. Okay, I’ll try and make it more sensitive and less painful. You’ve been fired, sacked and given your marching papers. Laid off. Have to be blunt mate. I know this for a fact, because I react the same way every day. The only difference is I react to hot sun, by turning away from it. And, she’s turning away from you. She’s stopped talking your calls for a month. So, why do you need to keep calling her? For practice? Please get the message, and move on.