‘Live with your decision’
Last year, during an outstation trip, I met a guy at the airport. We exchanged numbers, but never spoke. Recently, he messaged me; he will be in the city and he wants to meet me. I am dating someone. Should I still meet him? NT This guy has ignored you for a year and now that he’s in the city, he wants a temporary hobby or play thing. It’s all to his convenience. Now, if it’s to your convenience too, well that’s something you must answer. However, if you were happy with the guy you are dating, you wouldn’t have asked this question in the first place.
For three years, we have been in an on and off relationship. Now he has gotten serious and wants to settle down with me. Every time he has broken up, he has come back to me. Also, whenever we broke up, we have never dated other people. What should I do? HG Don’t you eat Chinese food? Haven’t you read Chinese proverbs? Some are difficult to understand such as, ‘This land is the property of China’. Yet, there are simpler ones such as, ‘Blows that don’t break your back, leave you with a nice tan’. Your relationship mirrors this proverb. Don’t count things as breakups if you keep getting back together. And, since you didn’t date anyone else, neither party had really broken up. It’s like how we say something, but don’t mean it. Yesterday, I asked a shopkeeper for ice, but I actually wanted rice. Happens all the time. Looks like you’ve already settled down. So, go ahead enjoy some Chinese food.
My parents want me to get married since a long time. I have been dating a woman for a year. She is our neighbour and my family members don’t like her. If I tell them of my choice, they will reject her. But I lover her a lot. Naren Take off your clothes and wear only your socks. Then, stand in front of the mirror and ask yourself, “Who’s the boss?” Then, answer, ‘I am’. By ‘I am’, I mean you are, not that ‘I am’. To further clarify to you, you are the boss. To me I am the boss. Also, make sure you are alone while doing this exercise, or you’ll find yourself in the Me Too firmament. Naren, it’s your life. I get this question all the time. You have to choose, and live with your decision. I’m not saying go against your parents, but take charge, convince everybody around you. Be the man, be the boss. Just don’t try to convince your family wearing socks.
One of my friends recently broke up with his girlfriend of two years. And, post this we have been hanging out regularly. I think I am starting to like him. But his ex is also my best friend and if we start dating it will be kind of an awkward situation. MM MM, why should it be awkward? Shakespeare once told me off the record that there’s nothing like good or bad, but your thinking makes it so. Bear in mind, he was a professional thinker. So, why can’t you date one guy and be good friends with his friend? No problem there. Unless this is just a thought I’m putting out there, you like both the friends. That’s a totally different scenario. That becomes a dilemma for you. You become like a Karnataka MLA, who had to hide in a resort as every party wanted to poach you. If that’s the case, you have some serious decisions to make. Unfortunately, HT can’t put you up in a resort, till you make up your mind.