IT’S OKAY TO CALL YOUR BELOVED ‘SIR’

I like a girl and she likes me too. I don’t like this girlfriend-boyfriend stuff. Everything was going well, but she suddenly started hanging out with this ugly looking guy. I don’t like this. What should I do? 153t Alongwith Hindi Kap music and suspenders for males, ugly men always seem to get a bum rap. My friend, your case is curious, therefore three compliments to it: a) you like each other b) you don’t like this girlfriend boyfriend stuff c) she may have passed you over for an ugly boy. The first makes perfect sense. After that, it goes downhill really fast. If you don’t like the boyfriend girlfriend stuff, then what relationship did you want with her? Boy and car? Boy and toy ? Or boy and other boy? As for her leaving you for one ugly boy, that’s like a lion passing over a wilder beast for supper in favour of a garden lizard ! I think you need to look at this boyfriend-girlfriend thing for a bit. Make an exception this one time or else it’s gonna be the ugly boy all the way. I like a guy in my office. He is my senior and I call him ‘sir.’ I get along with everyone. I like this guy a lot. We talk at night on WhatsApp; he shows signs that he likes me. But in office, he treats me just like a colleague. I don’t know if this affection is only from my side. Please help. Simran Simran, let me assure you that the word ‘Sir’ is not an impediment in love. Many kings were called ‘Sir’ by their wives, and their mom’s (separately of course), while Kings in turn addressed their wives and mothers as ‘Sir’ (again, separately of course) So fret not about name calling. The WhatsApp, though, has me worried. I thought it was a group medium. But what do I know as you can very well see, I still communicate with letters in print. I think you are rushing this. Even if he’s chatting with you, it might not work into anything. The fact that he’s chatting with you means something, but play it cool. As for office behaviour, isn’t that’s what supposed to be keeping it ‘professional’? But again, what would I know? My office consists of me a ball pen and a German Shepherd and we don’t have a WhatsApp group yet! I was in a relationship for five years. She used to lie to me, but at the same time, she loved me. Over time, she started getting attracted to men who were smart. Whenever I saw her chatting with these men, I would yell at her. She wanted to marry me. But I was confused because of her behaviour. She broke up with me in 2012 and came back after six months. She has broken up again now. I begged her to come back, but she hasn’t so far. I think she is dating someone from her office. She says they are just friends. I don’t want to see her face again. I am in depression. Please help.

Pradeepkr Pradeep, let’s look at the life of a famous saint. At 7, he spoke 7 languages. At 9, he disapproved Pythagoras while standing on his head. At 11, he transformed himself into a rubber ball and was never heard again. The moral of this story is, people are dissatisfied. You are one of these people. You are in a relationship in which you have little faith. It’s a very negative base. In architectural terms, it’s like the Leaning Tower of Pisa. You are insanely jealous. You don’t trust her, she left you a few times she’s probably with someone new now. You see? Too much negativity, too much baggage. I really think you need to put this one behind you. How can you build anything on so much negativity? So please don’t transform yourself into a ball. Be sturdy, turn to your friends, pick up hobbies and move on. Recently, one of my colleagues got married. I used to love her. She uploaded her marriage photos on Facebook with her husband. I just ‘liked’ them and wrote nice comments on her wall. Now, she has unfriended me. Her other friends also ‘liked’ and commented on the pictures. What could be the reason for unfriending me?

AR AR, please tell me the truth. Which photos did you comment on? What did you say? Was it filled with double meaning? Sexual innuendo? Speak up brother, I can’t hear you. Oh, right! That’s because this is a letter. Oops! Sorry, I forgot. If, on the other hand, you haven’t done anything wrong, then in that case be grateful. The great artist Shiamak Davar, who, when dropping me from his friends list, gave me a very reasonable explanation. “Cyrus, sorry, I have too many friends. I can’t afford anymore, sorry may be next time.” So, be glad in the 21st century with the internet and technology invading every inch of space. To be unfriended is to love and breath again! Cheers!.