Do you know why it’s called Facebook? So you can save face after a rejected friend request
During college, a friend said she loved me and we started dating. After two years, I moved to Sonipat for further studies and found out that I was being cheated on. It’s been two years since I broke up with her, but I still can’t move on. Please help.
MH
MH, as you probably recall, the WCF (World College Forum) has clearly stated that what occurs in college is valid only as long as you are in the same college. For example, my friend Samuel borrowed ₹10 from me in junior college. Today, 20 years later, I can’t claim the same amount from him. Although from the goodness of his heart, he sent me ₹200 last week. So, when you moved to Sonipat, your contract with her became null and void. More null, because I have no idea what void means. Forget your heart; do what you are trained to do. Respect and accept the law. The law says you’ve both moved on. Say it over and over again, at least 1,000 times until you accept the honourable love court’s decision.
I am 18, and I haven’t been in a relationship yet. I don’t know how to approach a girl. And if I talk to a girl, I can’t keep the conversation flowing. Help.
SF
SF, please pay attention. First, identify a girl. They look like us, but are a little smaller and sometimes noisier. Once you figure out the species, identify one you like. You may then try one of three approaches. Try a casual ‘hi’ as you pass her. However, always pass her from the front. Don’t creep on her from behind. She may get startled, and rightfully smack you with an umbrella. Or you could get a common friend to introduce you two. The most common approach would be a social network. A ‘friend’ request let’s you know where you stand. If it’s negative news, no one else needs to ever know. That’s why it’s called Facebook. So, you can save face.
I was in a relationship with a guy for three years. But due to his insecurities and possessive nature, I broke up with him. He tried convincing me for four months and I told him that I’m dating someone else so that he could move on. It’s been almost a year and he says he has moved. But I haven’t yet. It’s tough for me to see him forget me. My intuition says he still loves me. What do I do?
AM
AM, just as I was relaxing in a pothole in Mumbai, drinking a large tender coconut paani, you had to come up with this series of complications. Obviously, you still like him, despite his possessive nature. First, do some research and find out if he’s still available. If this is so, follow the steps of the scientist B Ramaiya. Don’t literally search for his footsteps, because B Ramaiya rarely walked. His preferred mode of transport was a ‘palki’. He spoke of swallowing one’s ego. He himself did the needful everyday washing down his ego with a cup of hot chai. Please do the same, contact him, and confess. Your intuition may prove right, and luckily you have nothing to lose.
I have liked a girl for two years, who had a very bad breakup. I waited for her to move on and now she has, I guess. We chat online, but I’ve not approached her in person. I am afraid of rejection. She knows I love her. How can I make her like me?
MSY
MSY, you have given us a very important clue that answers your own question with immediate effect. A lesser man may have felt threatened but a seasoned crime fighter like myself, who has worked, in his imagination, with every great agency there is, inter alia, Interpol, CIA, MTV, and so on, picked up on it. You say she knows you love her, yet she continues her association with you. This tells my trained eye that she is very comfortable with you, and with the fact that you like her. You have got an open field; you have got the ball. I see no reason for the lines, man, to yell “off side”.