The tight-lipped partnerships
Before you start dating someone, there is always the wooing phase. And, once you start dating the person that you wooed or liked, they’ll reveal a lot more to you than you ever expected, probably even contrary versions of what you always knew about them. But in most cases, people will never share everything with their partners — about their past or present — no matter how many years you’ve been together.
Here are a few things that experts believe will always remain hidden from a partner.
FATAL ATTRACTIONS
No matter how much you love your partner, they might still get attracted to their best friends or family members. Viveck Shettyy, life coach, says, “You will never have the slightest inkling of this secret kept by your partner as the truth may end up creating an awkward situation for everybody, including themselves. And so, they may decide to keep this a secret.”
SEXUAL HISTORY
Sex is still a taboo for many in our country. People will always hide the number of intimate relationships they’ve had. Dr Arati Suryawanshi, psychologist, says, “Some people love the idea of their partner being a virgin as it brings value to the relationship.”
THE EX EFFECT
Dating someone who’s been in many relationships is frowned upon in India, though this thought process may have somewhat changed recently. Shettyy says, “It may be extremely difficult for an individual to reveal to their partner about the number of relationships they have had before they met. They would be extremely worried that this aspect may affect their spouse’s perception, and eventually create a lot of discomfort in their relationship.”
SHORTCOMINGS
Though you may like most things about your partner, there’ll always be something that you don’t. Tanushree
Bhargava, clinical psychologist, says, “Shortcomings of your partner, especially, aspects which can’t be changed, are never revealed. These can be things that one dislikes about the partner’s looks, weight and complexion.”
TEMPERAMENT
Many people have temper issues from childhood, which are mostly hidden in a relationship. Suryawanshi says, “Getting angry is not a very good sign. It can make or break a relationship, or have a devastating impact on the bond that two people share.”