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Adverse Effects on Children

Children are highly perceptive beings who can keenly sense tension and discord within their surroundings. When ego clashes occur between their parents and grandparents or other relatives, children can experience emotional turmoil. They may feel confused, anxious, or even responsible for the conflicts unfolding around them. This emotional distress can significantly impact their mental well-being and overall development.

Additionally, ego clashes between families and in-laws often lead to disrupted family dynamics. Instead of fostering a harmonious environment where children feel secure and supported,

Moreover, in households where ego clashes are prevalent, c h ildr e n's e mot i onal needDDs often take a backseat amidst the chaos. Parents and other caregivers may become preoccupied with resolving conflicts or defending their positions, neglecting the emotional support and nurturing that children require for healthy development. This emotional neglect can have long-lasting effects on children's self-esteem, relationships, and mental health.

Children caught in the crossfire of ego clashes between their own family and in-laws often face loyalty conflicts. They may feel torn between allegiance to their parents and loyalty to their grandparents or other relatives. This internal conflict can create immense psychological pressure, leaving children feeling guilty, anxious, or resentful. Moreover, attempts by adults to manipulate or influence children's loyalties further exacerbate the situation,

Mitigating the Impact

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1. Open Communication: Encourage open, honest communication among family members to address conflicts constructively and prevent them from escalating.

2. Setting Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to delineate roles, responsibilities, and expectations within the family, reducing the likelihood of clashes and misunderstandings.

3. Seeking Support: Don't hesitate to seek professional support or family counseling to navigate complex dynamics and learn effective conflict resolution strategies.

4. Prioritizing Children's Well-being: Keep children's wellbeing at the forefront, shielding them from adult conflicts and ensuring they have access to emotional support and stability.

5. Leading by Example: Model healthy communication, empathy, and respect in your interactions with family members, providing children with positive role models to emulate.

is a licensed clinical psychologist (alumni of Govt. Medical College Srinagar) and works as a Child, Adolescent and Family therapist at Centre for Mental Health Services (CMHS) at Rambagh Srinagar. He can be reached at 8825067196