A longdistance relationship cannot survive without hope. Something to look forward to together is a great reason to stick around

Quality communication

Loneliness

Lack of physical touch and face-toface conversations

Uncertainty

Trust issues

Fear of losing them

Lying and deceit

Assumptions about the partner and their friends

Time difference

Difference of opinion

Inability to resolve the conflict Worried you may cheat on the partner in a weak moment

Not being able to feel and give a hundred per cent

vOne partner putting more effort into the relationship

Financial expenses in travel, communication etc.

vvBenefits of LDR

Several studies have found that LDRs exhibit more excellent stability than proximate relationships. The age-old adage, “distance makes the heart grow fonder”, may work for some.

A lot of individuals enjoy the fact that when they meet their LDR partners, they are able to spend all the time with them and not be burdened with other day-today responsibilities.

Many new-age married couples are living apart for better work opportunities. They may be staying in different cities, posted elsewhere, prefer to be digital nomads and choose different physical locations than their spouses. With better career opportunities in different locations, they may choose to live apart. They are referred to as “Dual career commuter couples”.

Yes and no. Every relationship works when the individuals involved in it put in the work. No relationship whether LDR or non-LDR can thrive when the basic pillars like trust, honesty, communication, love and patience are missing. The success of a relationship depends on many factors.

Communication is important but overcommunication is not: One of the most over-rated pieces of advice out there is to communicate in the relationship and thrust rules around it. Communication should not be forced. Following a schedule may help you but both partners should choose to share as much or as little as they need at that moment. Let the communication be more organic.

Stop assuming: If you find yourself making all sorts of assumptions or judgments that are often either exaggerated or else completely wrong, then stop. Re-consider. Stop looking for issues in your LDR where there aren’t any.

Red flags: Figure out and discuss

vvvthe red flags with your partner. When will you both consider having a serious talk, if things are going awry? What is the threshold of tolerance for both? How would you know you are growing apart?

Ask your partner and yourself – “Is the distance temporary”? A long-distance relationship cannot survive without hope. Something to look forward to together is a great reason to stick around. It is important that you have something to keep you going, whether it’s the next big date, a vacation or even a big move together eventually. Plan out a date set somewhere in stone to have something to hold on to and work consciously towards.

Secure attachment: Work on forging a secure attachment by supporting each other’s interests, and having genuine respect for each other’s time, space and choices. Far yet close: Find a way to hang out together while apart. You can decide to watch the same videos, stream the same show, read the same book, play games online together, or even set up virtual dates. Don’t forget to randomly surprise your partner every now and then with gestures and gifts.

Intimacy: Don’t neglect intimacy. It is vital for any relationship to survive. Engaging in sexting, conversation, or even virtually lending each other a helping hand can be good for a relationship. Have an honest conversation with your partner about boundary setting and expectations when it comes to sex & intimacy while in LDR.

Gratitude and appreciation: Verbal and non-verbal expressions of gratitude go a long way in solidifying any relationship.

Popular movies on LDR: ‘You’ve Got Mail’ and ‘The Notebook’.

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