Keys to be TOGETHER

Everybody wants a healthy relationship but not many people know the basic rules of the relationship road that will keep you and your partner heading in the right direction

Best wishes to you both.

I am a 27 year-old man. My girlfriend had a serious relationship in the past. She hasn’t spoken to him since 2018. However, she still keeps talking about him all the time. How do I make her stop talking about the other guy?

Name withheld

Are you sure your girlfriend is aware of the heartache she is causing you? Sometimes people do things unintentionally, unknowingly. Please stop fuming over this communication gap only in your heart and try telling her how you feel. Express. I am sure she will understand and you guys will be fine together. Just be open about your feelings and don’t worry so much. Love is always meant to go a long way if it is true. Talk it out, sort it out and sail smoothly. Good luck!

By end 2020 I need to marry. I live in USA and have open relationships with 3 men. Truly confused on who is the right one to marry! Please guide.

Divya, USA

You will know you are marrying the right person when you feel support and encouragement about your own growth – both emotionally and intellectually. The right person will want you to be emotionally healthy and able to stand on your own feet. When you are with the right person you will feel good about yourself, safe and fulfilled. The right person is someone who is your friend. Your love and your marriage will slowly fade if the two of you are not friends. The right person will trust you and not spy on you. Feeling as if you have to justify your every move will become a very heavy burden. May you find the ‘right’ person soon. All the best dear.

I have been trying to overcome anxiety issues. I am in class 11 and facing difficulties. Kindly help. Dilpreet, Noida

Here are some tips that might help you: Reset your mind by focusing on another sensation, like the feel of the ground under your feet. Ask yourself if your negative thoughts are rational enough. You will find the answer.

Breathe deeply, starting at the bottom of your stomach.

Find a quiet space and talk to yourself, using calming and encouraging words.

Encourage yourself to listen to music, read a book, take a stroll under the sky and feel better.

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You will have an exciting reason to celebrate such as an engagement, wedding, graduation or birth ceremony. A lot of time will be spent with family and friends. Express your love and gratitude to others. You’ll make some courageous decisions.

Do the right thing for the right reason; be true to your principles. Compare traditional versus new approaches to see what works for you. Discussing various methods – old and new – with those you can trust will give you the necessary guidance.

Take steps to ensure financial security of your children or loved ones. You will be making wise investments or planning for retirement. Honouring family traditions is important. Share your family history with your children or other family members.

Expect a sudden positive win your life. You can now move forward and make great progress. Success will come through actions. Opportunities and blessings are being showered upon you. Travel is indicated. You will suddenly get very busy with work.

It’s the perfect time to learn all you can by returning to school, taking a seminar or conducting research. Repetitive practice will be required to acquire the skills you’re seeking. Do your best work and let the law of attraction bring you prosperity.

There will be a need to pay meticulous attention to detail. Your kindness towards others will be appreciated. Hard work done by you in the past will bring rewards now. Your protective, chivalrous yet humourous side will be loved by one and all.

Manage your resources wisely. Achieve a balance in how you spend and save money. Help out those who are less fortunate. This is the time for contemplation – to retreat and go within. You will enjoy solitude. You will be able to guide others who are in need.

When you are with the right person you will always feel good about yourself, safe and fulfilled

Positive changes are on their way! A welcome relief from troubled times is knocking at your door. Travelling or relocating is on the cards. Take everyone’s inputs into consideration while taking a decision. Merge viewpoints to create a better solution.

You will receive information that would be vital but at the same time difficult for you to hear. You’ll be required to speak the truth with kindness. An unpredictable person or situation is arising in your life. There is a need to communicate clearly.

All your life experiences have prepared you for this moment of truth. It’s time to de-clutter your home, clear away situations that aren’t working for you anymore and disengage from people who create more drama than happiness.