‘ Be open to others and see if you can learn from their talents’
QI am 23- year- old, working as an instructor. Many of my juniors have acquired better jobs in my field. I was the topper in all my subjects but I still remained behind them career wise. And my juniors who were not so great in studies are doing much better than me. I need to know why is this happening as it bothers me a lot and makes me feel less.
You seem to be comparing yourself to your juniors whom you have instructed. Think carefully as this one of the mind traps that people generally have when they compare two unrelated things so that one thing looks inferior to another than it really is.
In your case your comparison with your juniors who you think are less capable and therefore undesirable are doing better than you. Have you felt that this comparison is leading to self- pity? Do you think the comparison is fair or flawed? By such comparisons you are judging your potential and this can actually damage your self- esteem and worth. In some situations comparisons can be a source of motivation but not at the cost of your own sense of self. Understand comparisons can bring forth feelings of inadequacy, envy, sense of victimisation or self- pity as well as losing the ability to trust others. If your comparisons are making you feel like less then recognise that this is an ineffective strategy.
Be open to others and see if you can learn from the talents of others than trying to be better than them. Remember in life there can never be a time when you are better than others. Instead try doing your best if you have been good at something. In this way you can channelise your energies on bringing the best in you.