Understand that not all your friends will like your boyfriend

QI have a friend who doesn’t like my boyfriend and keeps reiterating the fact that I should break-up with him and that I deserve better. While, I’m not sure why they don’t get along, I don’t think that he is a bad person. Speaking to her fills me with negativity and I’m caught right now in a dilemma because it makes me angry with her when she says this but I know she has my best interests at heart. This has also caused harm to our friendship. How do I balance this situation?

It can be an awkward situation for you as both are important persons in your life and you want them to get along. In a typical ‘best friend doesn’t like boyfriend’ situation, often a concerned friend will warn you as she cares for you. Check if there is a motive behind her disliking him?

Does she know something about your boyfriend that she can’t tell you or she is possessive about you? Has she expressed being jealous or insecure about you giving him preference over her? Or are there any red flags that she sees and you are being ignorant? Does she have some valid points that you might want to listen? You need to be clear about the negativity that fills you up when you talk to her.

Talk with your friend about what makes your boyfriend special in your life and also ask yourself if he is really good enough for you and do you see a future with him. Understand that not all your friends will like your boyfriend and likewise he might not get along with all of your friends. It’s ultimately your choice and the onus is on you to make the decision. Consider carefully who you want in your life — the guy or your girl friend.