BALANCE THE EXTREMES

QDear Pampaa,

I am a 36- year- old woman, living separately with my kids. My husband is an alcoholic and a womaniser. Being cheated by my partner and the separation after eight years of marriage disappointed me a lot. What can keep me happy?

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Dear one,

You and your husband are soulmates. This marriage was destined, though your hubby was sceptical while marrying you. You are more open- minded and receptive, and he is rigid about making any changes. Cards say that you were both supposed to be together all your life, as per your soul path, and the purpose of your life. You need to learn that married life has stress in itself, by- default, as it’s about two people living together. The biggest challenge is to balance these two extreme ends — you need to be the most important part of each other’s life, and also need to have individual space. Learning this will be the most important lesson of your life.

Guidance from the universal wisdom You both need to get back to each other. Rather than thinking that being with him is a choice, think that being with him is a mandate, just like the way being with your parents and being with your kids is a mandate. Correct your own karma. Initially, you need to do it in an unconditional manner, keep forgiving him and loving him unconditionally. It might be difficult, but that’s your soul path. Do it for four months, and you will notice changes in him after that. He is stubborn, so you need to be the one to initiate the process and put in efforts for him to change.