‘ Resisting situations will not make them disappear’
QSince the last couple of months, I have been unable to concentrate on my daily routine. These days I kind of live through each day passively. I try concentrating going about actively by my day. But I can’t. How do I change this because it leaves me lost? Please help.
Living life passively would mean that you have been losing your passion and purpose for life. Reflect on the events that brought about this complacency since the last two months. When faced with stressful events often passivity can be a way of coping to accept the situation. Be mindful when passivity tends to permeate into all your interactions and you feel like your life is mediocre and boring.
Passivity over a long period of time can be unhealthy and leads to anxiety and depressed mood. Look out for other symptoms of feeling helpless and hopeless about life, lack of focus or concentration and drive to do things that were enjoyable previously. You might clarify with a psychiatrist if you are going through depression or unable to cope with any setback in life.
You seem to realising that you are heading towards an unhappy and meaningless life. Identify your reasons for being unhappy. What are your fears? Are there situations that you have no control over? What are the hopes that have been crashed and you feel that life is meaningless?
Understand that resisting some situations will not make them disappear. Finding courage to overcome your fears and becoming confident can be done with a skillful therapist. In therapy you will not only become self- aware but would know how to overcome any unhealthy patterns of coping. Unrealistic expectations, fears and conflicts about yourself, relationship others and with life in general can make you realise what is stopping you from living your life to the fullest. Hope this helps you to gain courage in dealing with your passivity and helplessness.
— This query has been answered by Dr N. Sucharita PhD, from Roshni Counselling Centre, Hyderabad 040- 6666 1117/ 18 Write to us at feedback. age@ gmail. com with “expert advice” in the subject line