Be self-compassionate

It is found that being kind to yourself has mental and physical benefits

Taking time for kind thoughts about yourself and loved ones has psychological and physical benefits, a study has found. Researchers from University of Exeter and University of Oxford in the UK found that taking part in self-compassion exercises calms the heart rate, switching off the body’s threat response.

Previous studies have shown that this threat response damages the immune system. Researchers believe the ability to switch off this response may lower the risk of disease. In the study 135 healthy students were divided into five groups, and members of each group heard a different set of audio instructions. The team took physical measurements of heart rate and sweat response, and asked participants to report how they were feeling.

The two groups whose instructions encouraged them to be kind to themselves not only reported feeling more self-compassion and connection with others, but also showed a bodily response consistent with feelings of relaxation and safety. Their heart rates dropped and the variation in length of time between heartbeats — a healthy sign of a heart that can respond flexibly to situations. “These findings suggest that being kind to oneself switches off the threat response and puts the body in a state of safety and relaxation that is important for regeneration and healing,” said Hans Kirschner, who conducted the research at Exeter. “By switching off our threat response, we boost our immune systems and give ourselves the best chance of healing,” Anke Karl, of the University of Exeter.

The recordings that encouraged self-compassion were a ‘compassionate body scan’ in which people were guided to attend to bodily sensations with an attitude of interest and calmness; and a ‘self-focused loving kindness exercise’ in which they directed kindness and soothing thoughts to a loved one and themselves. While people in both the self-compassion and positive but competitive groups reported greater self-compassion and decreased self-criticism, only the self-compassion groups showed the positive bodily response.