The Free Press Journal

Dad’s the way

First-time daddys share their fatherhood experience­s during pandemic with

- ANINDITA PAUL

Last month, tech billionair­e Elon Musk and his partner Claire ‘Grimes’ Boucher welcomed their first child together – a son, whose name rapidly became the source of much amusement and even a few tabloid headlines. Actor Sumeet Vyas, who welcomed baby boy earlier this month, too recently opened up about his experience­s as a first time father. Naming dilemmas notwithsta­nding, the journey into first-time fatherhood can be daunting for many; when this transition must be made during an ongoing pandemic, it takes on new meaning.

Recent estimates by UNICEF indicate that India has the largest number of expected pregnancie­s and births during the lockdown (20.1 million, to be precise). For these parents, the joy of childbirth is also tinged with disruption­s in services, limited access to support networks and strained healthcare systems.

Greater responsibi­lity

“In many ways, the role of the father has become more important during the pandemic – my wife underwent a C-section delivery and was prescribed complete bed rest for two months. In addition to caring for our daughter’s basic needs, I must also take responsibi­lity for comforting my wife when she becomes anxious about our baby’s health and being able to cope with the many restrictio­ns that the lockdown has imposed on us. I’ve found that being calm and focused can go a long way in making the situation manageable – it’s easy to become overwhelme­d when there are so many factors at play,” says Abhishek Bhasin. He adds that learning to cope with the baby’s erratic schedule has made him much more mindful and patient – qualities that he believes will serve all fathers well during the pandemic. Organised but flexible

With the baby’s nanny having to leave work during the lockdown, Imran Ladak found that having a schedule that involved splitting up time and responsibi­lities with his partner went a long way in helping them to better manage the situation. However, he also warns that “being very rigid about adhering to this schedule can easily become frustratin­g. Remember, your baby will do what (s)he wants, regardless of the tasks you’ve laid out for the day. Going with the flow and trying to do as much as you can as the day unfolds is important.”

A mixed blessing

For Kanishk Tuteja, the hardest part about becoming a father during the lockdown has been not being able to celebrate important milestones with friends and family. “In our culture, especially, a new birth brings with it many ceremonies. It is a very social affair. However, we have been very vigilant about social distancing and this has meant giving up on these festivitie­s. At the same time, as an entreprene­ur in the hospitalit­y industry, work stresses are at an all-time high. This said, having a baby to focus on has made the passage of this troubled time much sweeter – I’ve been too busy to worry about the future of my business. All I can do is get as much work done as is possible and then spend time with my child – thanks to the lockdown, I am able to spend much more time with my new-born baby than I ever would have been able to. I’ve also begun to learn new skills – including DIY décor and photograph­y – so that I can make this period much more memorable and special.”

Ladak adds that the addition of a new member to the household has filled him with great optimism, despite the adverse impact of the pandemic on his work. “Becoming a father has made me more positive about the future and more resilient – I am confident that things will work out for the best of our family, no matter how bleak the situation seems right now. I’ve also learned to take the highs as well as the lows in my stride. There’s so much to look forward to, so many new experience­s that I hope to share with my baby boy,” he says.

 ??  ?? Sumeet Vyas with wife Ekta Kaul before the birth of their son
Sumeet Vyas with wife Ekta Kaul before the birth of their son
 ??  ?? Abhishek Bhasin with daughter
Abhishek Bhasin with daughter
 ??  ?? Elon Musk with baby X AE A-XII Musk
Elon Musk with baby X AE A-XII Musk

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