WHY WON’T HE EXPLAIN HIS AFFAIR?

My husband and I have been together for 64 years, but something that happened 52 years ago has taken over my life. We married young, were happy and longed for a family, but it was nine years before we had our first child. I knew my husband was attracted to a woman at work and eventually they had an affair, going away for weekends and even having sex in our car. After a few months, she ended the fling. Unfortunately, I was too scared and stupid at the time to challenge him and, by then, I had the children to look after. Recently, however, I confronted him and he admitted it. We have talked a lot and had rows, but he says he was glad that this woman ended the affair. He is now very loving, but will not reveal the reasons why he cheated on me and keeps telling me to move on. I feel that I have a right to know. Am I being unreasonable? Even though the affair happened all those years ago, because you have only recently confronted your husband about it, it feels as though it took place just yesterday. He loves you and genuinely regrets the hurt he has caused you, but he needs to understand that, for now, you must go over and over it in order to help you consign it to the past. Sadly, men often have affairs while their wives are busy looking after young children and too exhausted for sex, but it’s not fair and he should answer your questions. If he does, try not to let something that happened more than half a century ago spoil the loving relationship you have now, and concentrate on enjoying your life together.