WAS MY YOUNGER MAN USING ME?
A short time ago, I had a brief relationship with a much younger man. When we met, I was happily single and not looking for a boyfriend. I didn’t have any illusions that it would last long term, but felt disappointed when it fizzled out. Looking back, I have accepted that it was just a casual sexual fling. I recently read an article that said younger men deliberately target middle-aged women who are flattered by their attention. I’ll never know if this was the case for my fling, but it’s damaged my self-esteem and I feel ashamed to have been taken for such a fool. I have been told that I am attractive and look young for my age. He still contacts me occasionally, probably to keep me as a back-up option. Of course some age-gap relationships with younger men survive, but often they are fleeting. The attraction of older women is that, like you, they are good-looking and look young for their age, and men are excited by the prospect that they have lots of experience in the bedroom. Hence the rise of toyboy websites. Also, younger men are often not looking for a long-term relationship, which might be the case for women their own age. Most women who get involved with a younger man do want more than just a brief fling, however. You are not a fool – you simply fell for a man who wasn’t right for you and he may well have had genuine affection for you. We all make mistakes, so don’t let it knock your self-esteem. You are an attractive woman with lots to enjoy in the future. So put this down to experience and move on. Avoid much younger men and edit him out of your life.