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A short time ago, I had a brief re­la­tion­ship with a much younger man. When we met, I was hap­pily sin­gle and not look­ing for a boyfriend. I didn’t have any il­lu­sions that it would last long term, but felt dis­ap­pointed when it fiz­zled out. Look­ing back, I have ac­cepted that it was just a ca­sual sex­ual fling. I re­cently read an ar­ti­cle that said younger men de­lib­er­ately tar­get mid­dle-aged women who are flat­tered by their at­ten­tion. I’ll never know if this was the case for my fling, but it’s dam­aged my self-es­teem and I feel ashamed to have been taken for such a fool. I have been told that I am at­trac­tive and look young for my age. He still con­tacts me oc­ca­sion­ally, prob­a­bly to keep me as a back-up op­tion. Of course some age-gap re­la­tion­ships with younger men sur­vive, but of­ten they are fleet­ing. The at­trac­tion of older women is that, like you, they are good-look­ing and look young for their age, and men are ex­cited by the prospect that they have lots of ex­pe­ri­ence in the bed­room. Hence the rise of toy­boy web­sites. Also, younger men are of­ten not look­ing for a long-term re­la­tion­ship, which might be the case for women their own age. Most women who get in­volved with a younger man do want more than just a brief fling, how­ever. You are not a fool – you sim­ply fell for a man who wasn’t right for you and he may well have had gen­uine af­fec­tion for you. We all make mis­takes, so don’t let it knock your self-es­teem. You are an at­trac­tive woman with lots to en­joy in the fu­ture. So put this down to ex­pe­ri­ence and move on. Avoid much younger men and edit him out of your life.

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