SHE HAS LOST ALL INTEREST IN SEX

Having retired, I was looking forward to a relaxed time and holidays abroad with my wife. We are now in our early 70s and used to make love on a weekly basis – but our love life is in decline. Ten years ago I had a serious operation. When I recovered, I was keen to resume our lovemaking but my wife less so. We went to counselling and the counsellor understood how I felt, but my wife disagreed with everything the counsellor said. We eventually reached a compromise of aiming to make love around once a fortnight, but that caused a lot of tension. Now my wife says that I only want her for sex and she never wants to make love again – and that I should be old enough to live with that. We love each other and I want us to stay together even without lovemaking, but feel bitter about her decision. How can I kill my libido so that we can live together contentedly? I know you love your wife, but perhaps she is saying you are only interested in sex as a way of trying to justify her own lack of interest. Or, a painful question, has she lost all interest in sex or no longer fancies you, or is she dissatisfied with the quality of lovemaking? Are there things in the relationship that she finds difficult? For most women, they need to feel emotionally close to their partner to want to make love. She needs to feel loved and appreciated and that you are affectionate at other times – not just when you want to have sex. If she felt this, then her desire to make love could return. You are definitely not too old. Some older men have medical problems and the medication can reduce their libido, but it would be very sad to kill it off deliberately.