CAN I CONVINCE HER TO STAY?

My wife is leaving me and I don’t know what to do to stop her. I am not a big drinker, but I went on a stag night and foolishly got very drunk. There were women there and I’m afraid it all went too far. When my wife found out, she said that I had used the drink to excuse my bad behaviour. She is right and I’m an idiot. She is moving a long way away and the children, who are old enough to make up their own minds, are going with her. They are disgusted with me. I have pleaded with her to stay, but she has strong morals and says that I knew what I was doing and now I must live with the consequences. Surely one mistake can’t mean it’s all over? She says I have never really appreciated her and haven’t always treated her right. How can I convince her that I’ve learnt my lesson? I am afraid it sounds as though she may have been unhappy in the marriage for some years and this was the final straw. Or she may have wanted to end it for a while and is just using this as a reason to justify it. Either way, it sounds as if she has fallen out of love with you. Do you really love her or are you clinging on to her because you fear being alone? If there is still love there, ask her to have joint counselling with Accord (accord.ie) to look at what has driven you apart and what changes you would both like to see if you were to stay together. If you still can’t come to a conclusion, they can also help with a divorce.