re­veals the highs and lows of life after Xposé

Irish Daily Mail - YOU - - CONTENTS - Ed­i­tor LINDA MA­HER Fash­ion ed­i­tor GRACE CAHILL Chief de­signer COLM COR­RI­GAN YOU is pub­lished by DMG Me­dia Ire­land Group ed­i­tor SE­BAS­TIAN HAMIL­TON Man­ag­ing di­rec­tor PAUL HEN­DER­SON

As Ais­ling O’Lough­lin clasps a a warm cup of tea in both hands and peers over at the roar­ing fire, she seems se­date and re­laxed, hap­pily chat­ting about her new life, filled with ba­bies, tod­dlers and home­mak­ing. It is a very dif­fer­ent type of busy life­style.

Just 12 months ago, she was chas­ing celebri­ties on both sides of the At­lantic for Xposé. Now she is ‘chang­ing nap­pies and pay­ing bills’.

There is a quote that sticks in her head from cel­e­brated critic and au­thor Cyril Con­nolly that she mulled over when she first took vol­un­tary re­dun­dancy that sums up her cur­rent sit­u­a­tion: ‘ There is no more som­bre en­emy of good art than the pram in the hall’.

Con­nolly was touch­ing on a larger point: namely that, when you be­come a par­ent, your art is no longer the sin­gle big­gest pri­or­ity in your life, to which you ded­i­cate all your time and en­ergy – and that can feel like a com­pro­mise at first. The cre­ative process can be very self­ish, in that you have to shut your­self away with­out dis­trac­tions, and that’s no longer pos­si­ble. It is a sit­u­a­tion that Ais­ling says she was happy to sur­ren­der into.

‘Life is good, fun­nily enough,’ says the mother of Pa­trick, 5, Louis, 3, and one-year- old Joseph. ‘With all this change, in­cred­i­bly, I think I’ve had one of the best years of my life. I just took my foot right off the gas. I’ve gone from be­ing in­cred­i­bly busy to not be­ing busy at all. There’s some­thing amaz­ing in that.

‘I ac­tu­ally re­ally like not be­ing busy. I’m busy at home but it’s a dif­fer­ent sort of busy. I don’t wake up in the morn­ing think­ing I have to get dressed, get the chil­dren dressed, get them out the door, get to a des­ti­na­tion and look a cer­tain way, at least get some make-up on. That anx­i­ety of hav­ing to be some­where in a cer­tain state is gone.

‘I have my own timetable now. I write a lot when the kids are in bed and I get to bring Pa­trick to school now look­ing wrecked and then I can have my shower when I get back. I get to take things at my ease. Ini­tially I was quite ag­i­tated by all that

Pho­to­graph by NAOMI GAFFEY. DRESS, Erdem @ Brown Thomas

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