He wants us to have an affair

I am 20 and I have feelings for a colleague 30 years older than me. We have both admitted that we are attracted to each other and have a connection. He is married to a woman 20 years younger than himself. We both want to cross the line, but are not sure how to do it as we know it would be wrong. However, he wouldn’t say that he had feelings for me if he truly loved her. Whenever we work together, it is like a fire ignited. How can the prospect of losing someone hurt so much? Hmmm. He is obviously into much younger women! I suspect that he would like an affair, but he probably has no intention of leaving his wife. If you did have an affair, you would get hurt when he eventually ends the relationship or his wife finds out about it. As you work together, your other colleagues would soon discover the truth – the couple involved are usually the last ones to realise this. If it ends badly, it would also be difficult to work together and you would have to find another job. Think ahead a little. In 20 years, when you are 40, would you want to be with a 70-yearold man? It will hurt less if you accept that he is probably pursuing you because he wants the fun of a sexual relationship and not necessarily because he has fallen in love with you. He should not be tempting you so don’t take this further. You have lots of time to meet someone else. You should also consider how his wife would feel if she found out about what has been going on.