What is wrong with our sex life?

We have been married for just over a year and my husband gives me lots of kisses and cuddles and tells me that he loves me. But there is a problem with sex. I love making love, but I always have to make the first move and though I am orgasmic, he never is. He insists that it is his fault, but I feel so rejected. I understand, but try not to feel rejected. He loves you and it sounds as though he has a problem, which has nothing to do with you or your relationship. Retarded ejaculation is the third most common sex problem for men after impotence and premature ejaculation. There can be physical reasons such as low testosterone or it could be retrograde ejaculation where the semen goes back into the bladder rather than out of the penis. So he should see his GP first. It could also be a psychological problem. Sometimes men find it difficult to let go because they have had an extremely strict upbringing or are very controlled in their lives. It can then become a self-fulfilling prophecy as they fear it’s going to happen and their fear is realised. Some men also find it difficult to ejaculate through sexual intercourse because they need firm stimulation to the penis. You could try oral sex. Is he orgasmic when he masturbates? Discuss all of this with him and ask him to consider psychosexual therapy with the Irish Family Planning Association (ifpa.ie). I am assuming that he is not gay?