How can I enjoy sex with my boyfriend?

I am 22 and have a lovely relationship with my boyfriend until it comes to sex. I have always had a severe fear of pregnancy. Despite having a contraceptive implant and insisting that he wears a condom, I still feel uncomfortable with sex. He agrees to use a condom because he loves me, but he never climaxes when we have penetrative sex. I worry that one day we will be more like brother and sister instead of lovers. I have always been a sexual person, but I get more fulfilment from watching porn and using a vibrator. I would love to be more intimate without the fear that makes sex not enjoyable for me. What else can I do? Do you fear getting pregnant because you are not sure if this relationship is going to last or is it that you fear the pain of childbirth? Are you afraid because you would not want children even if you were happily married? Either way, it is sad that these fears make it difficult for you to relax and enjoy making love and that sex is better on your own. Research shows that a contraceptive implant is 99 per cent effective, while the pill is only 91 per cent effective with typical use. I suspect that your boyfriend’s lack of orgasm is because he is adversely affected by how you feel about sex rather than the condoms. I suggest that you see a psychosexual therapist together to help you both relax and enjoy making love. It is also fine to introduce the idea of a vibrator. Just one other thing that might be affecting your lovemaking – are you sure that you are not gay?