Should we be more than friends?
I have been getting to know a woman on Facebook. We talk about lots of things including relationships and sex. Like me, she is in her early 50s and has never been married. She says that she has been a career woman and not had time for romance. She is very religious (a Christian) and does not believe in sex before marriage, so is still a virgin. She thinks that masturbation is a sin and visiting prostitutes is wrong. I see her more as a friend but she thinks that I am gorgeous and handsome. She has asked me a lot of personal questions about my past relationships. She has a charming, warm personality, but is perhaps not as attractive as me. I go to church fairly regularly. Do all religious women have similar beliefs? These are traditional beliefs (though the issue of masturbation is controversial because the Bible doesn’t actually mention it) and a lot of devout Christian women may indeed hold them, even if they don’t always stick to them. But this isn’t relevant, is it? What matters to you is what this particular woman thinks and it sounds as though you are not sure whether you want to be more than friends. I suppose that the only way you will find out is by meeting her and seeing if she is as warm and charming as she seems to be online. Your views are more relaxed and different to hers. This could present a number of difficulties if you ever decide to start a relationship. You probably need to look elsewhere for love.