He’s a brilliant lover – but I’m worried about his looks

I am in my mid 30s and split from the father of my children last year after four years together. He was unloving and non-attentive and we are both much happier apart. I had nearly a year on my own and was quite happy. I didn’t expect to meet anyone else, but then I started seeing a kind, generous, truly lovely guy. He thinks I am brilliant and there is a real spark between us. The one problem is that he is significantly shorter than me. I am 5ft 10in and he is barely 5ft 5in. We have a great time together but I’m wary of going out and about together as I worry that people will laugh at us. This man would be an amazing partner, so why can’t I stop worrying about his height? He is an amazing lover and incredibly sexy in bed. Am I throwing away something great or is it better to walk away now, knowing there is no way I can ignore my worries about his height? Tall, dark and handsome: isn’t that what every woman is supposed to want? But what if tall, dark and handsome is also arrogant and cold? And short and handsome is everything else you have always wanted? He sounds lovely but whether you can overcome your doubts, only you know. The happiest people in life are generally the ones who are confident enough to do what makes them happy without worrying what other people think. Don’t base your decision on what you think people will say, but on what you really feel. If anyone is unkind or immature enough to laugh at you, it doesn’t say much for them. Have you been out much together as a couple and introduced him to any of your friends? Did it make you feel uncomfortable or was it OK? Real friends will appreciate the fun and warmth that you see in him. If you really feel you can’t ignore the height issue in the long term then, yes, it would be kinder to end the relationship. But if he really makes you happy, I think you would probably find in time that it made no difference.