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DEAR J, You are being very tough on yourself and should remember you are still grieving. Your greatest opportunity for healing and moving forward is to live in the now. You are feeling stuck and indecisive because you are in a state of self-doubt, which, of course, is a form of self-sabotage. When the human ego is stuck, it is usually because it is stuck in fear. When we are fearful we doubt our capabilities, feel helpless, angry, frustrated, depressed, and have negative thoughts. That is all they are, thoughts. Shift happens in our lives when we change the negative to positive and empower ourselves. We are never the victim, and every experience teaches us lessons.