How sex with an ex might help you finally get over them
JUMPING into bed with a former partner would normally be considered risky behaviour.
But now a study claims that having sex with an ex may even help lovers get over a break-up.
And this is true even for those who still pine after their old flame, said report author Stephanie Spielmann, of Wayne State University in the US.
Researchers analysed the daily experiences of 113 participants who had recently had a break-up.
Two months later, they completed a survey asking them if they had tried to have physical contact with their former partners, how emotionally attached they still were and how they felt after each day.
In a second study, 372 participants reported their actual and attempted sexual engagement with their exes, as well as whether they were still emotionally tied. The researchers found that pursuing sex with an ex did not seem to stand in the way of people’s recovery from a break-up on a daily basis or over two months.
Most participants who pursued sex with their ex did succeed, but this did not influence how someone got over the end of their relationship.
Those pining after their ex-partner more often sought out sexual activity. However, doing this did not leave them distressed or feeling depressed. In fact, it left them feeling more positive in everyday life.
Dr Spielmann said: ‘This research suggests that societal handwringing regarding trying to have sex with an ex may not be warranted. The fact that sex with an ex is found to be most eagerly pursued by those having difficulty moving on, suggests that we should perhaps instead more critically evaluate people’s motivations behind pursuing sex with an ex.’ The findings appear in the journal Archives Of Sexual Behaviour.